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Parenting in India (Hindi)

 

सलाम नमस्ते शास्त्रीय काल दोस्तो 

आपका एक बार फिर से बहुत बहुत स्वागत है.

 ख़ासकर हमारे सभी माँ-बाप और होने वाले माँ-बाप को मेरा "प्यार भरा सलाम" !


आज हम बात करेंगे एक ऐसे सफ़र के बारे में जो हम सभी ने देखा है—चाहे हम उसके पैसेंजर रहे हों या ड्राइवर। यह सफ़र है "पेरेंटिंग इन इंडिया" का या  'बच्चों की परवरिश'  या 'बच्चों का लालन-पालन'  जिसके मायने होते  है-  बच्चों की देखभाल करना, उन्हें पढ़ना लिखाना और बड़ा करना, समाज में एक  जिम्मेदार इंसान बनाना 
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 पहला पड़ाव: हमारी रवायत, हमारी जड़ें
ये जो "बेटा, खाना खा लो" और "बेटी, ठीक से बैठो" की आवाज़ें हैं, ये हमारी दीवारों में रची-बसी हैं। यहाँ बच्चों की परवरिश सिर्फ़ एक जिम्मेदारी नहीं, एक इबादत है। यह "रीति-रिवाज" और "तहज़ीब" का वो बीज है जो एक पूरा पेड़ बनता है।

हमारी यहाँ "Joint family" ने बच्चों की परवरिश  को एक community project बना दिया। दादा-दादी की कहानियाँ, चाचा-ताऊ की डाँट-फटकार, और फुआ-बुआ की मिठाइयाँ—ये सब मिलकर एक बच्चे का "करेक्टर सर्टिफिकेट" तैयार करते थे।  

माँ बाप  गुस्से से बच्चे की  निंदा या बुराई करते है  या  बच्चे को  चिल्लाना, फटकारना, डांटना, फटकार लगाना, बुरा-भला कहना,   खरी-खोटी सुनाना, बहस करना,  बुरी तरह से लताड़ना, लेकिन इन सबके बिच आते चाची चाचा या  दादी-दादा,  या नाना -नानी  या मामू मुमानी और कहने लगते है "अरे बच्चे को क्यों डांट रहा हो,   ऐसे से बच्चा ग़लत रास्ते पर जाएगा  थोड़ा प्यार मोहब्बत से बात कर " 

जिद्दी बच्चे को समझदार बनाना भी माँ बाप से ज्यादा चाची चाचा या  दादी-दादा,  या नाना -नानी  या मामू मुमानी काम आते है।  जिद्दी बच्चे को समझदार बनाने के लिए  माँ बाप  लाड प्यार कम कर देते हैं जिससे बच्चे और जिद्दी बन जाते हैं 

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 दूसरा पड़ाव: दो किनारों के बीच तनाव
लेकिन दोस्तों, अब नदी के दो किनारे बदल गए हैं। एक तरफ "हमारे ज़माने में..." वाला किनारा है, जहाँ "आदर", "अनुशासन" और "रीती रिवाज़ " के पत्थर जमे हैं।

दूसरी तरफ है "आज के ज़माने" का किनारा, जहाँ "आज़ादी", "Privacy" और "ग्लोबल एक्सपोज़र" के तेज़ बहाव हैं। और इन दोनों किनारों के बीच में फँसा है आज का इंडियन पेरेंट—एक हाथ में "संस्कार की रस्सी" और दूसरे हाथ में "मॉडर्निटी की डोर" पकड़े।

यहाँ सबसे बड़ी "कश्मकश" यह है: क्या हम बच्चों को एक "परफेक्ट इंडियन" बनाना चाहते हैं या एक "Confident human being?

आज के  नौजवान पीढ़ी ज़हीन talented है और उनमें किसी भी थोपी गई बात का एतराज जताने की हिम्मत होती है, क्योंकि वे नई सोच, technology  और सामाजिक  बदलावों से जुड़ी होती हैं; यह काबिलियत उन्हें समाज को आगे बढ़ाने और रूढ़ियों को तोड़ने में मदद करती है, लेकिन इसी काबिलियत का सकारात्मक इस्तेमाल भी ज़रूरी है, जैसे रचनात्मक criticism और हल ढूंढ़ना, न कि सिर्फ़  मुखालफत  करना, ताकि वे समाज के लिए सही राह तय कर सकें और देश के "मुस्तकबिल" या  भविष्य का निर्माण कर सकें. 

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 तीसरा पड़ाव: नई चुनौतियाँ, पुरानी दुविधाएँ
पहले चिंता होती थी: "बेटा, सही दोस्त बनाना।" अब चिंता है: "बेटा, सही फ़ॉलोवर्स बनाना।"

पहले डर था: "बाहर कहीं गलत संगत में न पड़ जाए।" अब डर है: "ऑनलाइन कहीं गलत इन्फ्लुएंस में न आ जाए।"

पहले सवाल था: "तुम्हारी उम्र में तो हम..." अब सवाल है: "तुम्हारी उम्र के तो सभी बच्चे..."

और इन सबके ऊपर है वो "इमोशनल बोझ"—कि हमारी "उम्मीदें" और हमारी "आशाएँ" कहीं बच्चों के कंधों पर एक "अदृश्य बस्ता" तो नहीं बन गईं।

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 चौथा पड़ाव: पुल कैसे बनाएँ?
तो "तकलीफ़" यहाँ है, लेकिन "तसल्ली" की बात यह है कि समाधान भी हमारी ही संस्कृति में छुपा है।

1. "तालमेल" की कला सीखें:
   संस्कार और आधुनिकता का "बैलेंस" ढूँढना। जैसे—"प्रणाम" सिखाएँ, लेकिन "आई लव यू" कहना भी सिखाएँ। "लंगर में बैठकर खाना" सिखाएँ, लेकिन "फॉर्क-नाइफ़" से खाना भी सिखाएँ।

2. "तकरीर" नहीं, "तक़रार" नहीं—"तफ़हीम" दें:
   बातचीत का रास्ता खुला रखें। बच्चा गलती करे तो पहले "सुनें", फिर "समझें", और तब "सुझाएँ"।

3. "रोल मॉडल" बनें, "रिमोट कंट्रोल" नहीं:
   बच्चे "हुक्म" नहीं सुनते, वो "हरकतें" देखते हैं। आप जो करेंगे, वही सीखेंगे।

4. "डिजिटल दुनिया" को "दुश्मन" न बनाएँ:
   टेक्नोलॉजी को "दूरी" का कारण नहीं, "जुड़ाव" का ज़रिया बनाएँ। साथ में वीडियो देखें, गेम खेलें।

5. "खुदा/ईश्वर" ने जो "तोहफा" दिया है, उसे "कॉपी" न बनाएँ:
   हर बच्चा एक "यूनिक मास्टरपीस" है। उसे दूसरों की "कार्बन कॉपी" बनाने की कोशिश न करें।

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 आख़िरी बात: दिल से दिल का रिश्ता
दोस्तों, पेरेंटिंग कोई "एग्ज़ाम" नहीं है जिसमें "परफेक्ट स्कोर" चाहिए। यह तो एक "लंबी सैर" है—कभी चढ़ाई, कभी उतराई, कभी धूप, कभी छाँव।

हमारी भारतीय पेरेंटिंग की सबसे बड़ी "ताक़त" यही है कि इसमें "दिल" है। यह "किताबी नियम" पर नहीं, "दिल के रिश्ते" पर चलती है।

तो चलिए, आज से "प्रेशर" कम करें, "प्रेज़ेंस" बढ़ाएँ। "एक्सपेक्टेशन" कम करें, "एक्सेप्टेंस" बढ़ाएँ।

क्योंकि आखिर में, बच्चों को हमारे "सबक" याद नहीं रहेंगे... बस हमारा "प्यार" और "साथ" याद रहेगा।

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धन्यवाद, शुक्रिया, और एक बात याद रखिए—आप अकेले नहीं हैं। यह सफ़र हम सब मिलकर तय कर रहे हैं।

अलविदा / नमस्ते! 

How Parent-child relationship is damaged ?

 

How Parent-child relationship is damaged ?

It is said that a child's disrespect toward their father does not mean a parent is no longer important or respectable; rather, it can signify a breakdown in the parent-child relationship, potentially leading to a loss of trust and hurt feelings. Disrespectful behavior can stem from various factors, including a lack of connection, a need for attention, or observing disrespectful behavior in peers.Disrespectful behavior of the son is also due to the surroundings or friend circle around him.

While the child's actions are their responsibility, it can be a sign that a parent needs to address the situation by modelling respectful behavior, maintaining consistency, and potentially seeking professional support for their child.If parents are more dependent financially that other sources, then thinking of the son’s behavior undergoes change in view of that he is paying out of his earnings.

Open communication, competent family counseling, acknowledging previous hurts, and constant compassion and forgiveness are all important ways to mend a broken parent-child connection.  Rebuilding trust and connection can also be facilitated by shared activities, setting up appropriate boundaries, and showing a sincere commitment to the relationship with tiny gestures like affirmations and apologies.Since healing is a process that takes work from both parties, think about how you might contribute to the situation's dynamics and particular requirements.

Only if they both freely own their own shortcomings, beg for forgiveness, and receive it. One cannot harbor hatred or place the blame on the other. It cannot be obtained by holding the other person accountable for decisions you made that resulted in an unsatisfactory response. Recognize that, despite our love for others, we are all sinners and hurt them. Have faith that the offense they committed was not necessarily a deliberate act of malice. Then begin there. There will still be disagreements between you. Be prepared to ignore them.

One of my office collegue told her story that her oldest child did do this. They have not spoken to him or his wife in four years. They returned the Christmas gifts she sent to her grandson. They have blocked any and all access to them. It distressing, especially considering how close she is to her daughter's son. She respects their wishes and look after them life long. How do she could cope with it?  Well, that first year there was a lot of tears and anger on her part. She was shocked and about lost it when she got her Ramzan Eid gifts back, and she started shedding tears the whole night.She cried and screamed for about a day. Then she pulled up her big girl panties and took those unwelcome gifts down to a local day care center.  Her grandchild didn't get to play with them and she didn't get to see his smile and have fun. she got to see some kids smile and play and have fun with them. As for talking bad about her son and his wife? Nope she will not do it, nor will she allow anyone else to talk trash about them in her presence.  Whatever their reasons they feel this is best.  She further added that whenever she look at the children of her neighbour, she feels that all parents should havae such children, respecting their parent. 

First, determine whether the problem is the absence of contact. The parents must examine themselves critically and consider the reasons behind this incident. Most likely, there were numerous warning indicators. The decision to stop communication is not made lightly; it is a long and difficult one, and the child has to make this choice in order to safeguard their physical and emotional health. Unless there is a very significant problem, people do not want to cut off their parents or family. Are they very needy and clinging? Are they interfering and controlling? Do they have unreasonable expectations? Does the youngster continue to be undermined by a narcissist? A child may choose to avoid interaction for any of those reasons. In that scenario, the parents

They must learn to appreciate and learn to apologize for their previous actions. It's a another matter entirely if the child is narcissistic; in such cases, they could be cruel and cut off communication with their parents. They want to plead with the parents to allow them to return to their life. The parents need to adjust since the narcissist won't. Let the child go and carry on with your life without pleading for them to return. Narcissists just bring forth drama, mayhem, and suffering; nobody is valuable to them, not even family members, because they are abusive. It might not be a relationship problem if the child has relocated far for job; rather, it could be an opportunity the youngster did not want to.

There are times when quality time is more valuable than quantity. Other means of communication include phone, email, Zoom, and so on. Tell the youngster that you are there for them and that you love and support them. Don't put them under pressure to call or visit more often. Accept the current state of the connection. Respect your child's needs and the limits they have set. Respect the fact that the child's requirements have changed as an adult. Then, even if your connection isn't what you desire, you should value and cultivate it. Relationships based on distance can endure.

The parents need to take a close look at themselves and think about what caused this situation. There were probably a lot of warning signs. The youngster must make the difficult and drawn-out decision to cease communicating in order to protect their mental and physical well-being. People don't want to cut off their parents or family unless there is a serious issue. Are they clinging and needy? Are they controlling and meddling? Are they expecting too much? Does the child's narcissistic behavior continue to undermine them? For any of those reasons, a youngster may decide to shun social interaction. In that case, the parents. 

They need to learn to accept responsibility for their past behavior and to express regret for it. If the child is narcissistic, it's a different story; in these situations, they may be cruel and stop talking to their parents. They wish to beg their parents to let them go back to their lives. The narcissist won't change, so the parents must. Don't beg the youngster to come back; instead, let them go and continue about your life. Because they are abusive, narcissists only create chaos, drama, and pain; no one, not even family members, is important to them. If the child has moved far for work, it may not be a relationship issue; rather, it may be an opportunity the child did not want to. 

Sometimes, quality time is more important than quantity. Additional channels of communication include Zoom, email, and the phone. Remind the child that you love and support them and that you are there for them. Avoid pressuring them to call or come in more frequently. Acknowledge the connection as it is. Be mindful of your child's needs and boundaries. Recognize that as an adult, the child's needs have evolved. Then, you should cherish and nurture your relationship, even if it isn't what you want. Distance-based relationships can last.

 

Parenting-3

 

Being a parent is one of the most important privileges you can have as a child. I mean, indirectly, you have to thank that kid. That is why we become mothers or fathers. Like "Because of you, I became a mother, how did I become a baby", the distance between children and parents should be kept to a minimum.  The first teacher of the children is the "mother". Or whoever the parent is. She is very proud to be a mother. Unknowingly, her life would have been happier. She used to wave her soul over that cowardly creature calling her "Mother". Her ears are longing for the same. She is blessed. Parents do not teach you how to cry when you are hungry. We give children a touch of love and affection.  She learns intuition to recognize him. They learn other things from the same intuition. The key is for parents to recognize their child's IQ and expect that much from their children. Children's brains do not develop until they are 3 years old.  Recognizing this, one should strive for his physical growth and then mental growth. Care should be taken to ensure that children do not fall head over heels for at least 3 years. Constant pursuits from waking up in the morning to going to bed, parents trying hard to teach, and children picking up the good things out of the first action are two contradictory things.

But children happen through their actions. If you want to cultivate the artistic qualities as a good child, a good student, or a good citizen, they imitate your good deeds. Children observe all our things, children observe all our things closely. And that's where the kids come in. That observation alone proves their veracity.

This means that your responsibility is greatly increased by the alternative. Every action of yours, no matter how small. There should be goodness, purity, honesty, love, affection, sacrifice, wisdom. The key is for parents to develop their own virtues. The development of virtues in the true sense is the development of humanity. Because of these qualities he grows up but he does good deeds for the society and the country. Because of that quality, everyone who comes in the company feels the desire.

Happiness is found in his company. If this is possible, then good qualities should be nurtured. Parents should not deprive their children of their childhood. Because their days are not coming back. They just want to win with love. The crow saw that the child holding the biscuit in his hand was instinctively born.

It is up to the parents to do this. Parents want to pass on to their children the culture of sharing a mole with seven people. Parents want to teach their children that giving gives happiness. If they are very stubborn children, they want to be angry, but they will not hurt their ego with this skill.

In fact, there is a healthy mind. But first the body should be healthy. Only then the mind stays happy and fresh. And it is the parents' responsibility to keep that body healthy. Physical fitness is essential for the holistic development of children. The mind and body become healthy as all the food elements enter the body. That is what Ayurveda says. It is the mother's job to make them taste good.

Eating should be changed according to the season. Oil should be applied on cold days. If you keep a careful diet for 4 months in cold weather, then there is no problem in staying calm for next 8 months. That's what the older generation says. The child looks stylish only if the fact of his telling as well as the "sleep" rest is completed. Otherwise, he wakes up crying. That means parents need to recognize that something is wrong with them.

Only healthy thoughts make life easier in later life. In the minds of children, both the feelings of intimacy and gratitude are rooted and they grow automatically. Because only these two emotions can keep alive the relationship with the person, the society and alternatively the believer. His greatness is due to his humane behavior. And then there is the question of who the child belongs to.  Alternatively, these things can go beyond the rites. Good manners make a man great. As education removes the darkness of ignorance. That is how man wants to maintain his humanity. Humanity is coming true. Man must know this.

The pace of the twenty-first century invites new diseases. Not only that, but the diseases that used to occur in old age started happening in youth. That's when it happens. Laziness causes the disease to take root in the body. If there is no restriction on diet and thinking, the same picture will be seen in the next generation. That is why today's children need to have a self-reliant schedule of discipline. And it has to come from us. Parents need a good relationship because they don't want stress.

Because the child is more ...... There he is fearless. They should not have any kind of concussion. This is their first post. Parents should decide whether they are children of Sudha religious family or not. Doesn't the original lie? Doesn't any kind of deception originate? This requires special attention from parents. Want a friend-like relationship with your child.  The mother should have a friendly relationship with the daughter. The behavior of parents should be transparent. / Original wise way you. Anand Anand. It is the parents' duty to give them proper space. Giving them a fair understanding of their mistakes, giving them compliments for their performance. The two should be able to combine. The mother herself should be proud. If you have respectful love, then the original apocalypse is considered as your role model.

A woman who is busy with work all day and child in the evening pays tireless attention to her child. This is her true skill. It feeds his curiosity. Not only sound education but his alertness and dedication too are most required. Matured parents should teach them how to be smart. Don't insult them. Give them a good word. Teach children how to deal with adults.

Mother is the mother of culture. Every act, every word, every advice and sermon of a mother is full of culture and moral values. Mother, father, school, Guru is the abode of Samskaras. Guru, Vidya Sambhashan is leading various aspects like leadership to the disciple. Good leadership is needed in society. And the society appreciates good leadership but if the society wants to be prosperous and healthy then this child has to be nurtured from childhood.

It is our duty to take care of our children, to take care of them, to take care of them, to take care of them, to keep them happy and happy.  Whether the grandchild is from father or mother. Friendship is essential for life. For proper personality development, proper mental development, happiness, peace, contentment, good relationship with all.

Neighbors and other relatives should be in love with everyone, so we should forget about obstacles and strengthen our love for everyone. Children need to understand the value of this relationship. And a positive attitude is the key to a happy life.

Indian culture is the best in the world. It is everyone's duty to nurture and nurture it

Genetic parenting is a kind of parenting style characterized by low demand with high responsiveness. Genetic parents are very affectionate, yet provide some guidelines and rules. These parents do not expect adult behavior from their children and often look like parents to their friends.

These parents are the polar opposites of the so-called "max parents". Instead of hovering over their children's every move, genetic parents are incredibly relaxed and rarely enforce any kind of rules or structures.  Their motto is often "Children will be children." Although they were usually warm and loving, they did little to control or discipline their children.

Permissive parenting is sometimes referred to as mild parenting. Parents who display this style place relatively little demand on their children. Because these parents have low expectations for self-control and maturity, discipline is a rarity

Researchers have found that overly relaxed attitudes towards parenting displayed by hereditary parents can lead to negative consequences. Children raised by genetic parents do not have their own discipline, they have social skills, they are self-involved and demanding, and they feel insecure due to lack of boundaries and guidance.

Children raised by genetic parents suggest:

-Display low performance in multiple episodes. Because their parents do not expect them to do anything, these children do nothing. Studies have linked genetic parenting to reduce academic achievement.

-Make poor decisions. These children struggle to learn good problem solving and decision making skills because their parents do not set or implement any kind of rules or guidelines.

-Demonstrate more aggression and less emotional problems. This is because they do not learn to handle their emotions effectively, especially in situations where they do not get what they want, so parents may have to deal with stressful or emotionally difficult situations.

-Unable to manage their time or habits, these children never learn the limits due to lack of structure and rules in the home. This can lead to watching too much television, playing too many computer games and eating too much. These kids never learn to limit their screen time or eating habits, which can lead to unhealthy habits and obesity.

In one study, genetic rearing was associated with alcohol use; Teenagers with exemplary parents are three times more likely to drink. Researchers also suggest that genetic parenting may be linked to other risky behaviors, such as drug abuse and other forms of abuse.

Because genetic parenting involves a lack of demands and expectations, children raised by parents in this style grow up without a strong sense of self-discipline. They may be more uncontrollable due to the lack of barriers in the school home and may be more inefficiently motivated than many of their peers.

Since these parents have certain requirements for adult behavior, there may be a lack of skills in the children's social settings. Although they are good at interacting, they lack other important skills to share.

If you've struggled with pushover or rule enforcement, consider finding a way to develop some more authoritative parenting habits. This can be difficult at times, as it always means being strict, enforcing the rules and trying not to let your child get upset.

Here are some strategies you can consider:

-Develop a list of basic rules Your children need to clearly understand what your expectations are in order to know how to behave.

-Treat well. Try to get your kids to do good things and allow special privileges when performing these actions.

-Make sure your children understand the penalties for breaking the rules. The guidelines are useless because not following them does not produce any results. The logical consequence of losing time and privileges to break domestic rules.

-Follow. This may be the biggest struggle for parents who are genetic, but it is important. Try to be firm and consistent, but still help your children understand why such rules are important by providing loving enough feedback and explanation, but still make sure the situation is fixed.

Divorce of both parents and children :

Divorce can be stressful for both parents and children. Although reactions depend on the child's age, temperament, and separation, most children experience sadness, frustration, anger, and anxiety - and it is not uncommon to have reactions outside of these emotions.  It is very difficult to face the people coming in contact in this phases, if they questions about their Parent's Divorce.

Fortunately, at the time of divorce, parents can help their children to make their children understand the circumstances under which their divorce taking place. You can help them in this difficult time by reducing stress as everyone is adapting to the new situation and the situation is created by responding openly and honestly to the concerns of the children.  Children need to have the ability to move during this period, parents need to have a cultured relationship. Disagreements between parents, whether they are separated, divorced or together, cause a kind of stress in children that can last beyond childhood.  Sometimes, after marriages of the children, the issue come for discussion or arguments, as and when views are clashes.

Divorce brings a lot of changes and realities of loss. Many children and parents are devastated by the loss of their family form and children especially miss their parents and family life. Therefore, it is normal and natural to hope that their parents will come together even after explaining the purpose of the divorce.  It is normal to grieve over the loss of a family, but over time both you and your children will come to terms with the new situation. Reassure your children by explaining that it is normal for their parents to want them to come together, as well as explain their decision.

Some ways to help children with divorce issues:

-Encourage honesty. Children need to know that their feelings are important to their parents and that they are taken seriously.

-Help them express their feelings. Children's behavior reflects what kind of emotions they experience. Allow them to express their feelings and help them categorize without wanting to change or understand them immediately. You can tell them, “You're sad right now. Do you know what makes you feel bad? "Even if it is difficult to listen to them, listen to their response well.

-Validity of your feelings. Helping your child understand that their feelings are valid by telling them "I know you feel bad" or "I know you feel lonely when Dad is not around". It is important to encourage children to express their feelings before giving them a way to improve.

-Support offer. Ask, "What do you think will help you feel better?" They may not be able to give you a specific answer, but you can suggest an idea - maybe sit together for a while or walk around or hug a favorite stuffed animal. Kids will appreciate calling the dad on the phone or drawing a picture for mom and giving it to her when she gets home at the end of the day.

-Stay healthy. For many adults, separation and divorce are the most stressful situations they will face in life. This pressure can be exacerbated by closeness and financial problems, which can lead to the worst reactions in people. Finding ways to manage your stress is important to you and your entire family.  Staying physically and emotionally healthy can help counteract the effects of stress, making sure you are in the best physical shape to take care of your family.

-Controlling the details. When discussing divorce details with your friends, family or lawyer, make sure you protect your privacy. Try to communicate with your ex in the most civilized way possible, especially when You communicate in front of children. Take the most appropriate approach - don't blame or blame where the children can hear, regardless of the separation situation. This is especially important in divorces where there are traumatic events, such as adultery.  

-Get help. This is not the time to face it alone. Find a support group, talk to others who have something similar, or ask your doctor or a religious leader for sources of support. Getting help for yourself is a great example of how to find healthy adjustments in these important changes for your children.  Seeking the help of a counselor, therapist or friend will help maintain a healthy bond with your children. It is very important to rely on your children for support. Older children and those who would like to please please, you will want to heal by giving a shoulder to cry.  No matter how tempting these gestures may seem, it is best not to allow your children to be emotionally drained. Let your kids know how much they appreciate their caring and caring nature, but take it to a therapist or friend.

Depression, mood swings, increased peace of mind, changes in school performance, alcohol or other drug use, sexual activity or intense anti-behavioral behavior can all be signs that children are anxious. Adolescents may have behavioral problems, depression, poor school performance, a desire to leave home, or legal trouble.  Regardless of whether these facts have anything to do with divorce, these cases are serious issues that affect the well-being of adolescents and indicate the need for expert help.

Especially when divorced, children will benefit from spending time alone with their parents. Regardless of how inconvenient it may seem, try to visit your earlier schedule as they try to agree on the hours of the visit.

In today's world of automation, it can be a daunting task. Only time will tell how much success is written in their hands. This is because it is difficult to say how long the rites alone will provide protection to the children. While we cannot avoid the influence of the outside world on them, the restraint of domestic rites on their minds can cause them to think for a moment as they go down the wrong path.

Times are changing rapidly. Change has been an inevitable part of nature, human life, society, family and it has been happening since time immemorial, but it has not happened suddenly. Its speed is slowly picking up the rhythm. Generations passing through this transformation, though a little shaken, soon assimilated this transformation.  

There was a generation gap between the two generations, but not so much that the next generation would feel alienated. Each middle generation would fill the gap between the old generation two steps behind and the new generation two steps ahead.

In the last 25 years, however, rapid change has taken the next generation hundreds of steps further. The older generation insists on standing where it is or is vulnerable. The middle generation is working hard to hold on to the old and not let the new wind blow out of their hands. It is impossible for them to run at the speed of light, but they are trying to run as fast as they can in the breath tank.  In all this, the society and the family seem to be wandering, disintegrating, losing stability. Everyone here is confused, bewildered. Someone has lost their level. Everyone thinks that there is no one who understands me. Why did all this happen?  This is a very broad subject of sociology, it has to be written separately. Let us now consider what can be done to teach the new generation, confused and isolated by these developments and the changing socio-technological environment, to understand, explain and teach them to embrace those changes.  

Who is the new generation after all? 

So don't your own children! Admittedly, this is how children get along, but in today's world, parents need to be more discriminating with the help they render toward other people. Only time will tell how much success is written in their hands.  This is because it is difficult to say how long the rites alone will provide protection to the children. While we cannot avoid the influence of the outside world on them, the restraint of domestic rites on their minds can cause them to think for a moment as they go down the wrong path.   We, the parents of this current generation are the most intelligent and complicated. We are the busiest and unluckiest of all.  The answers cannot be found without understanding what the questions are. First we need to understand the problems of the new generation. It is necessary to keep an eye on the things, events and situations that this generation is facing. The kids in my house are not like that, so they don't have to deal with these problems, so keep yourself in delusion  and turning a blind eye to any situation would be dangerous. One has to always be alert and anticipate all the happenings in the society. All possible disasters will be avoided. The most common problems children currently face at home can be divided into three categories - home, school and community.  

Problems at home include playing games on the phone or computer all day, chatting with friends, surfing the Internet for hours and late at night (including porn sites, video chatting, etc.), always busy in replying and chatting with the friends, sleeping late at night, getting up too late in the morning, apathy about studies, disrespect for teachers, excessive or even intensive interaction with family members, radical changes in eating habits, unrealistic appetite for fast food, junk food, overall lack of healthy home diet or depression and consequent weakness, either due to a very lean physique or weight gain due to increased fat (both called malnutrition). Will come),   lack of play-exercise, lack of communication, indifferent and insignificant role of children in festivals and weddings and overall activities at home, lack of awareness of own chores, responsibilities and duties at home, dependence on small household skills - e.g., own tea-breakfast if mother is sick. Unable to make it or inability to feed a sick person, ignorance and depression about how to take care of them.  

In school problems, children seem to be more involved in extracurricular activities on the school premises. They are found smoking along the school walls, in the corners of the grounds, in the toilets, in the empty classrooms. There is also an exchange of porn videos between boys and girls in these places and on school buses. Sexual games are played in which someone is forced to complete a target.  This is often done as a thrill. But sometimes it is done by force, sometimes it is done to show that we are not behind others. It often involves immorality. It is unfortunate that educational institutions and hostels should also be considered as primary places for addiction and drug addiction. It is a fact that school children are involved in drug trafficking and are also involved in their sale.  No matter how many thousands claim to run large educational institutions for a fee, they still have to face these challenges. So it is time to install CCTV cameras in the school premises. Incidents of sexual harassment of students have increased in the school premises. The atmosphere of trust in educational institutions is lost.  Parents should have full control or vigilant about on going activity of their children, intermittently.  The older children in the school are not as obedient as they used to be. The incidence of child abuse and assault is on the rise. The winds of caste-hatred and hatred of the changing society are also being felt in the schools. The attitude of devotion and respect towards teachers is disappearing.  Even children start arguing with their parents due to wrong surroundings. Of course, these issues do not come to the fore in a school discipline environment, but another major incident reveals these behind-the-scenes changes.

For this, teachers and parents should work in collaboration, coordination and mutual trust to handle the children. The parent-teacher meeting should not only discuss the merits of the progress book but also exchange information about the holistic development of the children, their health, their changing door-to-door habits, changing preferences, friendships, which will make them aware of even the smallest changes.  

The role of parents in their children's success is extremely important. Research has also shown that Parents who are very interested in their children's education, their children are more likely to be successful parents. Parents should pay attention to their children's studies and other academic education.  Education is not moreover forcefully taught.  It is essential that children should have equal values for the education that their parents are expecting to be taught.  

Investing in knowledge pays the best interest. A wise and prudent parents certainly thinking so. They agree with Aristotle's opinion that "education is bitter, but the fruit is sweet."   They pay special attention to the importance of education.  So, the parent of career minded, knows better, how to build the career of their children.  

The child's first educational institution is his home, where they lay their foundation of future career.  And mother is his first teacher. Children learn the most from their parents and follow them.  Parents play an important role in their children's education.  To be a successful parent, a special care and attention is required to be given by the parents from childhood of children.  

Without the active participation of parents in their children's education, Parents know that they cannot achieve their full potential. Research has proven time and time again that due to the positive participation of parents, Students' success increases, bad behavior decreases, attendance improves, and the educational level of the students in the school increases.  

In numerous studies, researchers have discovered that student's success in the classroom is most heavily influenced by his or her parents’ ability to:

• Encourage learning and education.
• Set high – educational standards and goals
• Become involved in school and community activities
• Set career goal.
• Set mechanism of measuring the success at each stage of career

You can’t force a parent to be involved in their child’s education, but you can encourage it. Parents are more likely to be involved if you make it easy for them the way out.

Hosting an Open House event in which a student’s entire family can visit the school and classroom in an informal and laid back setting builds the parent-teacher relationship. It eliminates the gap in the relationship and communication between school teacher, students and parents.  The factors behind this change in parent involvement at school are multi-faceted. Some parents have scheduling or transportation issues that make volunteering or attending parent-teacher conferences tough. Others, like under-resourced, feel that staff makes them uncomfortable or shows a lack of cultural awareness.

The young generation and youth energy have a big role to play in accelerating the development of any country's education. But the formation of that young generation starts from childhood. Much of the future depends on the child's childhood. The education of the children, the environment they get, how they will become a human being in the future, what their personality will be is largely determined.

Students whose parents are not involved in their education; Those students usually fall prey to bad habits and go away from education or their interest towards education is vanished away. Children face more difficulties in school. If parents ignore to look at such difficulties,  children become depressed and their educational level declines.  So, the role of parents in their children's involvement and their success is extremely important.

Some counselors say that Parental involvement from an early age has a significant impact on academic success. It lasts until adolescence and adulthood. Therefore, in creating successful and productive future generations, the role of parents is important in success of their children's success.

The importance of parents participating in their children's education is that after school invites parents, parents should be present,  all parent meetings and school activities. Responsibility to guide and advise children, Husband and wife should share. Parents should help their children in their assignments.  They should check up whether homework studies is improving in routine course.

What career their kids want to pursue.  There should be clear guidelines and studies to be collected by the parents and discuss with their kid about this. It helps build confidence in children and  children strive to achieve their goals, with determination. They are constantly aware of parental moral support. This increases positivity in children's confidence.

The importance of education for parents from an early age is that Children's minds should always be inculcated. It will help children gain self-development and independence and it will increase knowledge and culture awareness. Moreover to expand their future horizons and it will help them get job opportunities.  The parents should not impose their thoughts or opinion on their kids about their career.

Parents for their children, should also act as a career coach. They should note that, in addition to teachers and counselors, parents put their children on the right path with the ability and responsibility to guide. These are very important influencers because parents can keep a close eye on their studies and career.

Parents should identify that in which subjects their kinds are taking interest and  getting the most marks.  Accordingly, parents will also be able to give advice to their children to develop more interest and create inspiration. Parents should not force children to specialize or never be forced to choose an area or field of their choice. Parents must present their views to their children and explain prose and cons, but they should not impose it on them.

Many parents face the challenge of changing times and technologies.  As a result, they look for career options for their children in old or in traditional way, based on old knowledge.   Many parents push their children into traditional occupations, whom they consider safe, such as doctors, engineers, lawyers and accountants. However, there are many new business and university degree courses available today. These are businesses that have not been heard of ten years ago.

The style of parenting needs to evolve and develop in new way, over time, considering Labor market to guide children accordingly.   it is important to know about the teaching method. The education system is not the same as before and there are many other businesses that are in demand in the market these days.  Parents should attend career fairs and seminars and should discuss with teachers and counselors and the Ministry of Education and Higher Education and administrative development.  In order to develop training skills, consider taking a formal course. This will enable parents to guide their children with skills and insights, in proper way.

Parents should help their children to know their strengths and weaknesses while learning about their career. 

Parents should be helped to consider career or educational options, socially acceptable or financially beneficial to children, instead of pursuing such things, wrong way.   Instead of making decisions about their children's careers, parents should guide them to make good decisions about their employability, career advancement, etc.,

Children should be encouraged to achieve what they set out to do by providing constant support and resources.

In addition, parents need to be more communicative and thoughtful, need to encourage and support your children, instead of being domineering on them. They must have listening skills and instead of making decisions for their children, they need counseling. It's all in the hands of the parents.

The responsibility to raise high achievers, that may seem like a daunting task. Although each child is different,  Parents can bring out the best in their children, by  proper guidance.  Make sure your child gets enough sleep each night. To make many students work at higher abilities; It takes 7 to 8 hours of sleep.  Make sure the children are eating something before going to school to stay healthy. The human brain needs food to function efficiently. Learn school rules and help your child follow them.  

Parents should regularly check your children's grades, attendance and behavior on exams.  They should impress upon that how education is important to them.  Your children for school by keeping in regular contact with your child's teacher. Find out exactly what work is expected to be completed each week.  Expect them to spend time reading daily and set a good example for your children by doing this yourself. Tell them, “The more you read, the more you will know. The more you learn, the more opportunities  you will have.

it should be inculcated in their minds by parents that knowledge is power, Information is liberating, In every society, in every family, education is the basis of all progresses. Maintain certain expectations for your child's efforts, remove privileges if necessary and before restoring their privileges, give them a clear goal to bear in mind for achievement. 

Children try harder or behave better in school, by using indirect bribes or threats to influence school staff.  Let students do what they want; Every child needs to have clear, firm and consistent boundaries, which can be gradually released,  Because the child shows maturity and self-discipline.

childhood and parenting:

A newborn baby fetches more responsibilities for the parent.  This is a natural condition of a newborn baby. That's what they say and the fetus feels overwhelmed. However, after the passenger discharge, we can apply this to the parents. Infants do not sleep during the day, but sometimes. Insomnia affects not only the baby but also the body. The mother needs to find out the cause and learn how to deal with it.   From the first day of life it is impossible to bring a child into a strict frame of mind. Mode required, but reasonable. To find the golden mean, you must first understand why the child sleeps less during the day. Maybe it's just a feature of his body or maybe something is bothering him.

Newborns, infants up to one year of age and children behaving differently for three years. The older the child, the less he needs to sleep during the day. As a result, the waking period increases. But sometimes it happens too early and can  creates worries for parents.

For mothers' peace of mind, pediatricians who have been observing children of different ages for a long time have come up with average rules that show how much sleep a child needs throughout the day. They are not mandatory for all babies, but parents can navigate them, making allowances for their child's temperament.  Sleep deprivation is serious. Sleep is a basic human need, for you and your child. Insufficient sleep will not only affect your mood, but your child's learning capability.  Newborns - up to 2 months - sleep mostly 7-8 hours a day, taking 3-4 breaks for meals. Some babies are more alert, some less so. But if a two-month-old baby doesn't sleep at all, he probably doesn't feel well. In this case, it is necessary to tell the pediatrician about insomnia and visit a neurologist.

One-year-olds baby should sleep 2 hours a day with a break, and in a year and a half - the same time, but in a row. It is during this interval - from 12 to 18 months, that the child may not want to sleep during the day. Besides, it is sometimes difficult for a small person to explain that you need to rest longer than he has configured. But mothers should be patient, because it is too early to cancel a nap.  so, mothers should practice of sacrificing sleeps while newborn baby is below 12 months.

To understand how to get your child to sleep during the day, you need to find out what prevents him from getting a good night's sleep. There can be many reasons why babies stay awake abnormally long during feed.  Sometimes, some babies sleep during day time and stay awake during night.

Stomach and intestine crumbs can not cope with the digestion of food, causing him discomfort. If the baby has colic, swelling or pain, then normal sleep may not be a problem. Therefore, the mother should make sure that the child does not swallow air while feeding. It is also necessary to carry out preventive massage so that the gas, if any, go away on time. Every mother should have this logical studies about.

Despite the fact that diaper manufacturers promise "dryness for up to 12 hours", diapers need to be changed every 2-3 hours. Otherwise, the baby may be naughty and, therefore, sleep poorly.  Sometimes the primary cause of anxiety and insomnia is hunger. Maybe the baby has not eaten while feeding or just wants to drink. Before the baby goes to bed, make sure his natural needs are met.  If the child suddenly stops sleeping during the day, it may be due to climate change or unhealthy atmosphere in the room. When cold weather or heat starts, it is important to make sure that the micro-climate in the room where the baby sleeps remains at the same level.  Growing up children may deviate from the diet because the mother herself is bored with it. She no longer wants to spend many hours by the side of the sleeping child, as there are still household chores and other members of the household. And the older child does not want to accept the fact that the mother belongs to someone other than him.

Every little kids wants the closeness of their parents. Being alone in bed means being separated from his parents, no longer feeling their pleasant intimacy and original warmth. Of course, a rare child would agree to this without protest, especially if he or she is spoiled by parental attention.  

Most often, the baby falls asleep while breastfeeding or in its mother's arms. Once he realizes that when he falls asleep, his mother carefully tries to move him into the house, this baby will resist sleep with all his might next time so that this moment is not missed. When he sleeps, he sleeps very sensitively.  Realizing how you move him around the house, he will wake up immediately and shout out his disagreement. If you know yourself trying to sleep, for example, as soon as you close your eyes, someone will steal your blanket ..

The baby may have woken up at night in the crib with wet, cold, hungry, or nightmares. He felt lonely and forgot, and he had to wait more than a day for his mother to come. After such an experience, the baby may experience a latent fear of sleep and protest when he is alone in his home. The baby we try to sleep with is often not tired. For an older child, going to bed means skipping some fun activities, completing games, saying goodbye to the guests in the next room, and so on. Knowing that neither the parents nor the elder siblings are going to bed yet, the child does not want to accept such injustice.  Even some children are afraid of the dark and start crying in the dark.

If many children are afraid of the dark,  they do not sleep at all.  The parents did not know this for a long time and tried unsuccessfully to teach the child to sleep alone in his room behind closed doors. Once, as usual, the mother closed the door of her room and went into the kitchen. To her surprise, she did not hear the usual shouts and protests.  You can teach your baby to sleep at any age without parental help and without any help. But children between the ages of 1.5 and 3 months get used to it. Therefore, it is good to get used to it slowly from birth, but the baby is not yet accustomed to a variety of adverse rituals, from which it is not so easy to wean.  If such habits have already developed, parents will need a little more restraint, as the baby is not likely to leave them voluntarily. But even in this case, the problem is completely solvable and will probably not take more than a week to solve !

a) To teach you to sleep on your own, baby, you need to keep him alone in the house as often as possible from the beginning, but still stay next to him. If you carry the baby in your arms all day or push him into the stroller during the day, leaving him alone on a motionless bed will make him feel unsafe. This feeling will be unusual for the baby and he will not be able to sleep peacefully. After getting used to the nest, the baby feels calm there and in a familiar environment, any child sleeps well.  So, Parent should observe and teach your kind to sleep on their own.

b) Leaving the baby alone in the house does not mean leaving him there for long, especially if he is crying. No, of course, the crying child needs to be calmed. But once he stopped crying, don't take him too close. Put him down again so he can see you or hear your voice. Talk to him, sing to him, but leave him at home so he can get used to it. Among other things, the child will learn to cope with:  Look at his hands or play with them, look around, hear the sounds around him, etc. Well, you'll have time to repeat yourself. If you had a baby in your arms, you wouldn't have time.  Leaving alone baby to sleep their own, is a wrong gesture. 

c) If the baby is initially only sleeping on your chest, that's fine. You don't have to wake him up. For starters, if he gets used to his bed while awake, that will be enough. When he has a specific bedtime, you need to gradually separate food and sleep. Babies who like to sleep on a breast or bottle are best fed when they wake up or shortly before bedtime.   And for some as a baby gets older, he or she will outgrow this. By this time, he is already tired and his "internal clock" has gone to sleep, so it will be easier for him to fall asleep without your help.

d) Initially, it is not necessary to leave the child alone in the crib every time you go to bed. You can start once or twice a day, when, according to your experience, the baby falls asleep very easily. For most children, it is evening, but there are children who go to bed early in the morning or in the afternoon. The main thing is that you and the baby think that it is possible to sleep on your own. Then it will become a habit - it's just a matter of time.

e0 Parents are not the enemy of some children. They have more experience of the world. They have seen many summer rains.  Now-a-days, parents are very aware. They give proper guidance to the children in the matter of most of the careers. But if children want to choose another option, they should explain it to their parents and have a good rapport with their parents. Lack of communication creates distance between parents and children.

Children are just as ungrateful about their parents, as those who have lost their ideological and emotional capacity. In fact, it is rightly said that one should know when to go to one's family. When the soul that has come out of us hurts us, we will not know the sorrow and seriousness of it until we experience it ourselves.  Some children don't value what they get easily in their career life. 

Parents need to behave well in front of their children.  !!  They must first learn to control themselves!  Often, bad things are said in front of children about arguments, quarrels, relatives, neighbors and other people!, Kids knowingly or unknowingly assimilate it!.   So parents should follow these discipline and see that their good behaviors are well followed by their children.  

Parent should not compare your children to anyone!  Don't ask them for everything right away! Let it go for a few days! Doing so reduces stubbornness! Pamper in the right place and understand in the right place by giving examples! Don't irritate children for no reason! Preferably parents with children should enter the house keeping all their anger and stress out of the house!  Properly cultivate children!   Some children have this physically to see the face of their parent and decide how to deal with or keep calm.  So, parent should be friendly with their children and avoid imposing anything frightening them explaining consequences etc.,

Husband of some women are working outside of their country.  So, women get the sole responsibility of both. She had to take care of the children and make sure that they were not spoiled by too much pampering. It was fine as a child, but as the children got older, the task became more difficult when they become matured.  Accordingly, After children crosses 18 years of age, parents have to change their attitude and deal with them respectfully or avoid imposing your decisions after such ages.

Some parents have practice to bringing what their children want, playing with it without asking, feeding the food what they desired to.  To make the elders of the house imitate and laugh by talking nonsense,  Immediate delivery of items belonging to children next door,  Arguing loudly in front of the children, talking abusively,  Some parents tell their children to tell lie that his parent are not at home, when somebody knocks the door.  

Parents understand that at a young age, good clothes, shoes, etc. are necessary and important, but even more important is the appetite. Appetite is very high at a young age.  

Child has the first thing to do is to consider your parents' preferences, find out what they are most inclined to do, praise some of the work they have done in their life, praise them, appreciate in front of all, ask them first when starting any work, ask for their advice and start the day with their steps. Just touch and go out.   

When Parent come home, child should sit with them for a while, think about it all day long, share some of your fun activities, if there are small children in the house, their time goes by, so closeness of wife and children in the house is an important reason for parents' happiness.  Some children know how to make their parent happy and smiling.

Today's kids are either very smart and they have an opinion. They are very selective about their life partner and marriage. Therefore, if kid don't like it at all, they simply refuse. The expectations of both the parties are also very different, sometimes even strange. If so many boys or girls are not available in the marriage market then the parents have to face a difficult time.  Nowadays, due to the increase in love- marriages cases, it becomes difficult for parents to find a suitable bride or groom. If kid choose love marriage and their life partner of other cast or religion, then parent starts telling them about bad consequences, due to inter-caste marriage or try to pursue them as to what our relatives will insult or disrespect about this inter-caste marriage.  Some parents accept their chosen spouse with love and get married while some parents sneeze or interfere and as mentioned above due to the small number of suitable brides and grooms who accept the chosen spouse and get married.

Relationship of parent with their kid:

It is well said that if a child has something or wounded, his parent immediately run away and enquire about what happened? Why? 'He asks; But if the child is smiling, then when it is too much, we ask with a squint, 'Are you crazy?' This is not always the case; But often our reaction is like this. Parents look at us sympathetically when we cry and if we smile, they feel crazy, that's how it reaches children.  This means that if you want to be the center of attraction, you have to cry. If you're smiling, you're crazy, kids learn from this.

After sowing the seed in the ground, when it is planted and given the right fertilizer and water at the right time, it transforms into a big tree and then it gives its fruit after a few years.  The same is true of children. If a child is given fertilizer and water in the right environment at the right time after birth, then when he grows up, he will use his education in later life. Proper manure and water means that if he gets proper culture and education, he will be able to stand on his own feet, get a job, do business and get his fruits from it or get a good results.

As a child, you have a very important responsibility as a parent. The question for all parents is to choose the medium of instruction for their children. Nowadays different medium schools are also available in every city / rural area.  There is a trend right now that educating children through English means that they will be successful in the future, they will have an opportunity to earn money early, but this misconception must be removed first. Earlier, some courses were not available in Marathi, Hindi and other local languages. But now courses are available in all other regional languages.

At an early age, children learn by listening to the voices of family members and the language spoken at home. Children start thinking and speaking in the same language. It stimulates the thinking process. On the other hand, children may find it difficult to think in English.  Children think and ask questions in their home dialect. That is, children acquire knowledge. The more questions children ask, the more they learn. And their concepts go away.

If the teacher or parents ask a question to their kid in their mother tongue, it is easily understood. Learning from the language spoken at school, at home and in the surrounding area is easy, comprehensible and enjoyable for children. This helps in their holistic development. In short, whatever the mother tongue of the child, Marathi, Hindi, English or Urdu is the language from which the linguistic and intellectual development of the child is done at an early age.

Regarding the language of children, the language of the mother is the language of the child. When a child goes to nursery or junior, senior KG, his language development starts. That is, if the language at home is Marathi and English at school, then the language development of the child is hampered. 

When choosing a medium of instruction for children, we are not comparing which language is superior and which is inferior. So which language will the children understand more? Questions to ask? We are discussing here the language that can be considered.     Some parents impose upon their child to accept education in their language spoken at home.

If child is  stubborn and asking for something, which parent is willing to provided, but it should not become habit.    But even if it is never said, the children will get in the habit of not listening. And if the child is not listening, at the same time without explaining to him, when he / she is in a good mood, explain in good word and convincing language.

While parenting, pampering, too much can lead to stubbornness in children. Now, to reduce this is to convince the kind not to say something they don't want, but why they say no. Repeat over and over again this strategy. Talk to your kid's friends in front of him and tell him that stubbornness is not good. 

All children are not born stubborn. They become stubborn due to the behavior and speech of the people in the house. It feels good to supply huts at the beginning so they are supplied. The children repeat the same thing. She insisted to her mother, but she did not complete it.

If at some point kid cries for something, my mother immediately approaches or Grandma says, don't cry for my gold or my baby. These events are not as simple as they seem. Children's minds are forever engraved. Recently, a mother saw a 15-year-old baby, she is tired of being fed, she gives him a mobile phone to eat fast, while watching the video, the baby was eating stuffed food in five to ten minutes.

Lack of self-confidence in parents about their child, lead to disruption of relationship. We see that many parents do not accept that their child is autistic. And because of these behaviors, many years go by and he is deprived of pediatric treatment and therapy.

Parent should accept the truth and start treatment or find out solution for the issue. Many parents have countless thoughts about their child. Is this the case with my baby? Or my fate? What we should do without getting involved in many such issues is to think about how we can bring them forward by giving them the right kind of therapy to make them self reliant, to stand with the society.  

After being told by the parents, both the mother and the father should accept the responsibility and find a way out of this. The role of the father often appears to be very different among parents. Like “We don't have time because of earning. Therapy, the doctor has to keep the financial situation strong, "or" It is the mother's responsibility, it should be done by the mother, it is because of her, "etc. By taking many such loopholes, all the responsibility is shifted on the mother. The financial situation should be strong, even if it is true, the mother should understand.  If parents are doing a job, you should understand the stereotypes caused by the job, home and child responsibilities and take measures accordingly. Family responsibilities should be considered as an important part of the family. It is necessary to pay more attention to how children can be given more time and how they can be holistically developed, regardless of the norms, traditions and religious practices of the society.  The child spends most of his time with family members and only a few with doctors and therapists. Therefore, every member of the family should be aware of this responsibility.

Students should continue their education in the face of such a challenging situation, so the option of online education was adopted in our country. From this education, children learned some things that they would not have learned with technology. Teachers learned to use digital technology, to create educational materials, but what about the rest of education? Everyone wants a fundamental change in the field of education.  So, parents play a vital role in the modern age, in many aspect, for education of their children.  Under the current crisis, it seems that the time has come to make this change. Fortunately, a new national education policy has just been announced in many countries. It emphasizes on action study. It is possible to bring about this change by using it properly. It is important to know the current education system while talking about fundamental changes in the field of education.  

Here are some observations, experiences, challenges and solutions for the current education system, in the light of what has been done in the field of education till date.

1. Any education system is based on certain assumptions. In the field of education also education objectives, curriculum, teaching methods, evaluation methods etc. When determining the age of children, their physical, emotional, intellectual, linguistic, social, mental development, economic, social background, geographical factors, available resources, theories presented by educators around the world, theories put forward by psychologists.  It is time to reconsider all these assumptions, the definition of education, the principles, our needs, the role of components in the system and the method of its implementation.

2. At present the child goes first with pre-primary education. Teachers complete the textbook syllabus on schedule. Take the exam, the child goes to the next class. According to the current rules, even if a child fails in one class, his / her academic year is not wasted and the child is placed in the next class. It is expected that the therapeutic teaching of the previous class will be completed before the new academic year.   Otherwise, if the foundation is left unfinished, the child will fall into a vicious cycle and lose confidence in education. Unfortunately the key link in this process seems to be the teacher's lack of flexibility in the curriculum and the teacher's own lack of independence, getting stuck in the background and losing the joy and creativity in learning. The result? Far from being responsible citizens for the next generation, they are also unable to take responsibility for their own lives.  Board exams and scores have become unrealistic. Education should be enjoyable. Exams should be as easy as daily tasks. There should be a board exam when changing the stage of education. Students should have the freedom to choose the board during academic education. 

3. Education is seen as a tool to solve many social problems. Therefore, there is a need to make some very fundamental changes in the field of education, which is the backbone of the present situation. It's not easy, but it's not impossible. In particular, changes are required in the functioning of schools from 1st to 12th standard, higher secondary schools.  The question is not of convenience but of far-reaching consequences. For these changes, it is necessary to accept some new changes, leaving aside its own lingering position. For that all the relevant elements have to do a little extra work, depends upon willpower of the students.

4. To learn about the world around us, to understand the different concepts, to understand the causality, to use the knowledge gained to make daily life easier, to acquire some skills for smooth daily life and to use what we can do for the betterment of the society. It's a simple journey of easy learning, of becoming a human being.  But with a few respectable exceptions, today's education is stuck in books and exams. It should come out of the book and be linked to everyday life.

5. There are many triangles in the field of education such as teacher-parent-student, objectives-learning experience-evaluation, intellect-emotion-skill (Head-Heart-Hand). In the middle of all these triangles, with few exceptions, the organization, the organizers and the overall facilities for finishing the work are sitting apart and the rest of the angles are pushed away.  In the hands of those who have to make the decision, no matter how hard they try to make their education system student-centered, the decision-making process becomes institution-centered. The child should be at the center and the rest of the system should be supportive.

7. Education System in the developed country are very strong and capable. But sometimes it feels like all these institutions run in parallel. There is a need to increase coordination and coherence between them. Since education is an ongoing process, it should be the same for children. Primary, Secondary etc. The different departments should be for the convenience of administration only and there should be strong coordination among these departments also.  Education system should also be as much simplified for the parents, who are not graduated or matriculated, so that they could able to lead their children at right path.

8. When an experiment is successful in the field of education, its mass imitation / blind imitation begins. This should stop. Efforts should be made to identify the needs of your students by avoiding duplication / blind imitation.

9. The role of parents is important in the education of children. There is a growing perception that if a child is placed in an expensive school or class he / she learns or should learn on his / her own, children should make rapid progress in all areas. Parents are ready to provide their children with various classes, transportation, readymade notes, guides, readymade projects, expensive equipment, etc.  Only they should get a lot of marks and get admission in a good institution for higher education and get a foreign job with a good package! When will children learn on their own? This can lead to many social problems in the future. So parents should stop interfering in their children's education as much as they want. Adele should be given the same amount of help and guidance by paying attention to the right place. For this, along with the education of children and the training of teachers, there should also be training of parents.

10. Whenever children are asked a few questions, but the answers we get is  "We are not yet taught", "it is not in our syllabus". "This is not in the curriculum". Education is the completion of the curriculum, children learn only if someone teaches it, this attitude should be changed and it should be seen that the emphasis on teaching in the whole system will be on the study.

Children are moving away from their mother tongue. The rising marks of the students, the rising expectations of the parents, the extreme steps taken by the students, education in one field and career in a different field. Entrepreneur, on the one hand, a student who achieves great success in the most adverse circumstances,  On the other hand, there is a paradoxical picture of the young generation in a comfortable home with all the tools at their fingertips, on the one hand open to many branches of education, and on the other hand deprived of these opportunities. Lack of proper expression in childhood is one of the main causes of stress and depression in children.  Parents who do not have time to talk to their children, chat with grandparents due to separated family, love, not getting the right person to listen to talk, not being able to play on the field due to school-class commitments Some of the main causes of stress are that no one is listening to you during this period of instability takes root once the self-confidence decreases and various problems increase.

On the contrary, many things are achieved through expression. Knowing one's own tastes and abilities, being able to communicate with others, building self-confidence, being curious about your surroundings, getting information from them, being sensitive to people and events around you, starting to think independently, not being afraid of mistakes, asking for help and doing Many things like coming up, trying to solve a problem start with expression.

Is it fair to beat the children to make them understand  and follow parents? 

Do you find yourself in a bad situation today? No right As a child, our generation was fed up with teachers and parents. So a lot of good things were happening to us.  Nowadays kids cry a little because their parents behave as if the sky is falling, they provide what their children want. This is very wrong.  My advise is to punish them, this will make the children fear their parents and teachers and go ahead and become wise citizens.  Almost all the parents in our childhood used to tell the masters / teachers that if their kids are not studying or  not listening, then beat them up, so that with the fears of punishment, they could follow them. 

Some researchers scholars said that it is inappropriate. It used to have a good effect in the past but it can affect the present generation a lot. You will see the results after 10 years. Quietly explaining what is wrong and what is right. Remember your children are imitating you. So be aware of what you are doing right and what you are doing wrong.   If parents start beating their children for not obeying orders or poor studies in the school, then repercussions could be more dangerous. It is further said that children should not be killed, they are innocent, their children are traumatized, they do not speak, they are scared, they become fearful, otherwise they become fearless, they become cowards in the old language,  We do not allow our hands to ruin the future of our children.  Sometimes, we forget to identify the fault within the house, culture, inter-relationship.

Some researchers scholars said that it is not wrong to be a little harsh on just discipline, but it is not right to expect too much from children, it is wrong to expect things from them that we have never been able to achieve, without knowing their inclinations. If imposed, at some point they will rebel  or you will be lied to, a mysterious suspicious personality will be formed, a person outside the house will be more dear to you, it will not be right for him to seek your advice or ask for help, his communication with you will almost end.  It is very difficult to be a good. Some parents say that their  father never slapped me and never shouted at them. They had the same approach towards their children. Children should not feel their parents like boss, they should feel like their friends.  There should be friendly atmosphere in the relationship between Son and Parent. 

The role of parents is difficult, in parenting:

Students who are afraid of exams and parents who are afraid of results always see this picture.  Some kids are not that much serious about the result, on the contrary, parents sometimes, spent sleepless nights, till final result is declared.  But this year the situation is a bit different. This is because students and parents are freed from the fear of exams and results.  Although the results are satisfactory without taking exams, the old habit of choosing a specific career based on marks alone is still not gone. In short, the traditional approach to career choice can still be seen. While good marks are required for admission to your favorite college, don't forget that this is just one side of the coin.  If goods marks are not scored, then it is become stress for parent to find out the sources or make arrangement of money for management quota.  There are many examples of students who have achieved success by choosing the right career without getting good marks. There are also students who have not been able to cope with the stress of the course in the chosen field even after getting good marks.    

It would be beneficial to make the right decision by getting more information without taking a limited look at the various career options currently available. Remember, results are just the first step in choosing a career. So when choosing any career for your child, parents need to consider the following:

1) The marks obtained do not necessarily reflect the true potential of your child. Parents are supposed to analyze  child's conceptual understanding of a subject and the marks obtained in each subject. 

2) Parents are supposed to understand which subjects are easy for your child or which are difficult.

3) Parents are supposed to find out what your kid really loves to, in career.

4) Parents are supposed to understand  child's approach to education. For example, some careers require more time to study, so discuss  child's readiness for it.

5) Parents are supposed to learn about the opportunities available for higher education in the country as well as abroad, the necessary financial resources.

6) Parents are supposed to decide how long you want  child's education to continue. For example, how many years are you willing to wait until  child gets a job or he / she starts his / her own business?

7) Some parents borrow bank loan and spent crores of money for education of their child at Foreign university  and in the mid of education, child returns back saying that not interested in continuation. 

What role should parents play in their child's education?

That sounds obvious, but parents play a big role in their child's education. We assume that their attitudes towards education and school have a great influence on the setting of the secondary school. The following excerpt from "Teachers and Schools" published may be written in some way, but there is a lot of truth in it:

If the parents in a community have a vested interest and do not mind educating their children properly, they will choose the wrong people as the school authorities, they will allow minor quarrels and jealousy to interfere in the school administration, the best school in the school, If they encourage sluggishness, erratic attendance, and encroachment on their children, community schools can be far better than a training ground for undisciplined habits, inefficiency, disregard for the law, and even positive immorality.

In other words, it is not so difficult for parents to understand and help students that they are important if they have problems. Instead, there is a way for parents to talk about school and education. If they contribute to the teaching, the school and the teaching in general, the students will have a greater chance of success and role of their parenting in education of their kid will be successful.  Of course student success is much more than this. However, to give your children the greatest opportunity, they need to have an attitude that education and schooling is a good and positive thing.  

Paths to parental mental education

Parents and families may neglect their child's education and keep it subtle. Many times in my life parents have asked their children to talk to them about their school or their teachers so that no one would disrespect them. For example, I tell parents that they do not have to listen to their teachers because they are wrong.  In general, students can get education thanks to education. Of course the kids will complain. Parents can hear it but should refrain from joining in with complaints. Instead, they can give reasons for the school being more important and advise to manage it more.  The bad news is that I need to have full faith in his story, the children, most honestly, can speak or something is not true.  Also, if a student is being harassed by a teacher, this is to get all the facts.  

Who is the new generation after all what are their likes and dislikes? 

So the children in your own house! Admittedly, this is how children get along, but parents will have to work harder to make it happen in today's world. Only time will tell how much success is for them.    This is because it is difficult to say how long the rites alone will provide protection to the children. While we cannot avoid the influence of the outside world on them, the restraint of domestic rites on their minds can cause them to think for a moment as they go down the wrong path and thus leading towards failure in career. 

Times are changing rapidly. Changes in the society is inevitable. Change has been an inevitable part of nature, human life, society, family and it has been happening since time immemorial, but it has not happened suddenly. Its speed is slowly picking up the rhythm. Generations passing through this transformation, though a little shaken, soon began to assimilate this transformation.  Kids follow the changes quite rapidly and follow them quickly.  There was a generation gap between the two generations, but not so much that the next generation would feel alienated. Each middle generation would fill the gap between the old generation two steps behind and the new generation two steps ahead.

In the last 25 years, however, rapid change has taken the next generation hundreds of steps further. The older generation insists on standing where it is or is vulnerable. The middle generation is working hard to hold on to the old and not let the new wind blow out of their hands. It is impossible for them to run at the speed of the new light, but they are trying to run as fast as they can in the breath tank.   In all this, the society and the family seem to be wandering, disintegrating, losing stability. Everyone here is confused, bewildered. Someone has lost their level. Everyone thinks that there is no one who understands me.  Why did all this happen? This is a very broad subject of sociology, it has to be written separately. Let us now consider what can be done to teach the new generation, confused and isolated by these developments and the changing socio-technological environment, to understand, explain and teach them to embrace those changes.     Admittedly, this is how children get along, but in today's world, parents need to be more discriminating with the help they render toward other people. Only time will tell how much success is written in their hands. This is because it is difficult to say how long the rites alone will provide protection to the children.   Children spend most of the day in or out of the house, but in outdoor contact. It is not enough to impose the same policy as before so that they do not have too much contact outside. Parenting has become a huge challenge today. It should also be checked where the parents are falling short. Because just as the younger generation has been affected by the effects of technology, has the parent generation also suffered to some extent?   It is also important to examine how much we have fed ourselves in the name of modernity.  Children learn by imitating adults. Therefore, as long as they are at home in contact with their parents, the parents can instruct them with their own behavior and discipline. Children spend most of their time outdoors. Due to school, tuition classes, other classes, they are out for many hours. Even if we cannot avoid the influence of the outside world on them at such times, the restraint of domestic rites on their minds can cause them to think for a moment while going in the wrong direction.  

The answers cannot be found without understanding what the questions are. First we need to understand the problems of the new generation. It is necessary to keep an eye on the things, events and situations that this generation is facing. The children in my house are not like that, so they will not have to face these problems, so it would be dangerous to deceive oneself and turn a blind eye to any situation. One has to always be alert and anticipate all the happenings in the society.   All possible disasters will be avoided. The most common problems children currently face at home can be divided into three categories - home, school and community.

Problems at home include playing games on the phone or computer all day, constantly chatting with friends, surfing the Internet for hours and late at night (including porn sites, video chatting, etc.), sleeping late at night, getting up too late in the morning, apathy about studies, disrespect for teachers, Excessive or even lack of interaction with family members, radical changes in eating habits, unrealistic preference for fast food, junk food, overall lack of healthy household food or  Depression and its associated weakness, either too lean body or weight gain due to overweight (both can be called malnutrition), lack of exercise, lack of communication, depressed and insignificant role of children in home-wedding and overall activities, self-employment, responsibilities Lack of awareness of duties, paralysis in small household skills - e.g., inability to make one's own tea-breakfast if mother is ill or inability to feed sick person, ignorance and indifference about how to take care of them.

In school problems, children seem to be more involved in extracurricular activities on the school premises. They are found smoking along the school walls, in the corners of the grounds, in the toilets, in the empty classrooms. There is also an exchange of porn videos between boys and girls in these places and on school buses. Sexual games are played in which someone is forced to complete a target.  This is often done as a thrill. But sometimes it is done by force, sometimes it is done to show that we are not behind others. It often involves immorality. It is unfortunate that educational institutions and hostels should be the primary place of addiction and drug addiction. The fact is that the students in the school are involved in drug trafficking and are also involved in their sale.   No matter how many thousands claim to run large educational institutions for a fee, they still have to face these challenges. So it is time to install CCTV cameras in the school premises. Incidents of sexual harassment of students have increased in the school premises. The atmosphere of trust in educational institutions is lost. The older children in the school are not as obedient as they used to be.  The incidence of child abuse and assault is on the rise. In the changing society, the winds of caste-religion hatred are also being felt in the schools. The attitude of devotion and respect towards teachers is disappearing. Of course, these issues do not come easily in the school discipline environment, but another big event reveals these behind-the-scenes changes.

For this, teachers and parents should work in collaboration, coordination and mutual trust to handle the children.  It is responsibility of parent to take lead for their kid's future life. The parent-teacher meeting should not only discuss the merits of the progress book but also exchange information about the holistic development of the children, their health, their changing door-to-door habits, changing preferences, friendships, which will make them aware of even the smallest changes.  Parents need to know who their children's friends are, what their names are, their phone numbers, addresses, their parents' phone numbers, and so on. Without giving children complete freedom and without blind faith in them, the parents of their friends should be called and checked from time to time, so that the children do not get in the habit of making jokes. The fear is that your parents will be able to verify these things at any time.  

But while doing this, children should avoid negativity to everything, constantly having doubts, comparing themselves with others. Teacher-parent meetings should not be about insulting teachers, openly discussing their short-comings, or encouraging teachers to beat their children.  Children need to be taught to trust their parents so that they can be protected from potential dangers in a timely manner.   Problems in social places are mainly addiction and sexual problems. Girlfriends and boyfriends alike can be found in secluded public places in the garden, from school children to teenagers. Schoolchildren are more likely to meet secretly in the car park. This generation is caught up in the horrors of drugs.   Money for addicts, money to meet the needs of friends, money for expenses in mall-cinemax etc. and other unwanted activities for that money, theft, lying, lying and crime when the time comes, the series is horrible !

Are the children's problems just theirs? Who are the drug dealers, sexually abusing children at home, outside, at school, on the bus, in public places?  So it should be noted that they are all of our generation. Children are becoming victims of this modern technology. If we want to keep children away from all this, to make them a good ideal person, an ideal citizen, then parents and teachers have to work together.  There is no problem in organizing camps for parents and teachers when the time comes, so that they can be shared the knowledge and proper guidance on these problems, solutions, healthy environment, human behavior, children's mentality.

In order to create such an environment, first of all, there should be unity and harmony in the family. It is important to note that my family and I, in the name of privacy, keep our children away from easy access to social security.   In the past, children did not have the courage to do anything in the absence of their parents, because any large congregation in the neighborhood had the right to listen.  They also had that right. Anyone can bite any child with age right and alert parents immediately. Even at home, due to the joint family system, there is always someone to look after the children. It should be noted that family and social bonds are the biggest barrier to change. 

Adults in the home should be moderate in dealing with their children. Your behavior should set an example for children. Pampering children should not be done beyond a certain limit. We gave them expensive gadgets, cars, pocket money, saying that I would get them all because I didn't get them and we are giving the key to open the left door, let it be remembered. It is up to the parents to provide the right items at the right age, to teach them to appreciate them, to monitor their use, to set limits. Children should be made aware of their responsibilities and duties in the family. Convince them that they have an important place in the home. Involve them in small household chores, so that they will have the work habits and skills.  In the past, phones, internet, cars, modern means of entertainment were not available, so the boys and girls spent time together for those needs, learning many things and skills from each other. Even now they can be asked to spend real time with each other.  It is enough to give your child the same training by recognizing his skills and encouraging him to be the best in all respects, rather than making him a race horse and imposing a burden of expectations on him by keeping him competitive. He should be taught to find himself by letting go of a little emptiness rather than constantly being preoccupied with something.  You have to learn to talk to yourself. He should be allowed to realize how wonderful the world is inside him more than the technical world and how much more complex and magical his body system is than Google. If the answers to the questions are given in a matter of moments, then how will the journey of experience to get the answers and the skills acquired inadvertently in that journey, then the knowledge acquired through hard work be in the answer obtained by pressing the button?

The key is to first accept what your child is like. My child should not be my 'prestige issue', my status should not feel special as he is very special. Every child is a unique creation of nature. Realizing that everyone is unique, he will enjoy every step of his growth. Its merits and demerits can be easily noted and appropriate measures can be taken for it.  In stead of competing with children, children with anorexia nervosa and parents with anorexia nervosa should become parents who 'enjoy' their growth with their children. Sometimes by understanding their different opinions, learning new things from them by laughing and playing, we should also bring them a sense of good and bad through our experience. When the time comes, they should be able to repel them with authority and fear.

Children learn by imitating adults

मुले मोठ्यांचे अनुकरण करत शिकतात

The children are imitating the adults in the house. They learn from it. If they hear telling lie, then they practice of telling lie. If they look for the sweetness, care and love for each other in the relationship from childhood, then the strength of the relationship will take root in their minds. Then these kids can make healthy relationships in the future. So we have to take care of the flowers, make them bloom, only then will happiness and contentment blossom in everyone's life.  

Children are not born stubborn. They become stubborn due to the behavior and speech of the people in the house. It feels good to supply huts at the beginning so they are supplied. The children repeat the same thing. She insisted to her mother, but she did not complete it. If at some point father cries for something, Mom immediately approaches or Grandma says, don't cry for my gold or my baby. These events are not as simple as they seem. Children's minds are forever engraved.  Recently, a mother saw a 15-year-old baby, he is tired of being fed, he gives her a mobile phone in his hand to eat fast, while watching the video, the baby was eating stuffed food in five to ten minutes. Everything was finely chopped on the mixer and the mother was literally pushing spoon after spoon. If tomorrow this kid will be stubborn for mobile, how can we reduce the stubbornness of the mother who will ask questions on Kora or somewhere else?

Raising children is not an easy task, you have to be very sociable and sensible ... not only the mother but everyone in the house. We need unity in child rearing, not competition. Grandma yells for something, so don't hurt your mother's ego right away, and don't tell your kids if Grandma has done anything wrong. Now if for some reason the child has become stubborn then first of all observe the child calmly, what exactly is he / she stubborn for,  Raising children is not an easy task, you have to be very sociable and sensible, not only the mother but everyone in the house. We need unity in child rearing, not competition. Grandma yells for something, so don't hurt your mother's ego right away, and don't tell your kids if Grandma has done anything wrong. Now if for some reason the child has become stubborn then first of all observe the child calmly, what exactly is he / she stubborn for, Look at the person who is being bullied at what time. Try to divert the child's attention. It takes a lot of ingenuity and sociability, but it often makes children forget. If it still doesn't fit, make sense. No beating or punishment of any kind, it backfires. It will take time but everyone in the house should act in unison, in the same direction, firmly. Success will surely come.

The most important point in my view to increase the confidence of children is that the surrounding environment should be pleasant and positive. In any case, you will not get this, this word should be removed from your vocabulary. If a child has a problem or finds it difficult, it is very easy for the teacher to see exactly where he is going wrong, based on his experience and the skills he has acquired during the training, It is important to keep in mind that positive guidance can boost a child's self-confidence, and even more respect for the teacher.  Teachers who have the knowledge and the skill to teach, while teaching something new, without touching on a single subject, by making a link of knowledge already known to the children, by adding new knowledge to that link, make the children feel related to their life, and easily assimilate.

For example:  "Environment and Hygiene" Suppose if the subject is to be taught to another's children, if the mother asks what kind of work the mother does in the house after waking up in the morning, the children will say easily, after getting up fix the bed, fold the clothes, sweep the house After answering this, we can convince the children of the need for this, so that the importance of that thing will be inculcated in their minds.  After this, only your family stays in the house, but you have to keep it clean, then there are a lot of people living outside, then there is also garbage, then how to clean it? Such a preconceived notion will boost the children's self-confidence by making them aware of the importance of doing so.

The basic foundation of home's culture is discipline. If discipline is not applied to every action, then that action is incomplete. Strict adherence to discipline from waking up in the morning to going to bed at night makes spiritual progress faster. For this, the rites of discipline should be inculcated in the child's mind from an early age. Children should be given the right turn at an early age. . It will not come well at first; But gradually, as the child grows older, he will not be able to stay organized. At the end of the morning, they should be taught to study and prepare for school. Turn to keep study books, notebooks neat and tidy. Teach them to keep slippers, backpacks, etc. in a certain place after school or outside.  

Also, after washing the hands and feet, they should be taught to change their clothes and keep them neatly folded. If the button or hook is broken or the clothes are slightly loose, teach them to sew. Children also enjoy doing their own thing. Teach them to wash their own clothes according to their age.  After breakfast and lunch, you should be taught to rub pumpkins and dishes. In short, it means making children self-reliant. There should be no boy-girl difference. If everything goes well, the child will behave neatly, whether at home or elsewhere.  Get children in the habit of getting up early from an early age.  Early waking up for children, lead to refresh mood for study.   It is seen in many houses that children wake up at night for study and get up late in the morning. On the other hand, if he goes to bed early at night and studies in the morning, he will remember better.

Children learn from the actions of adults; So adults should do their own thing, talk, respect others. Also everything should be done on time. "Then let's do it," . For that, the mind should be disciplined rather than the body. In the homes of many, clothes are folded or awkwardly hung in cupboards and racks. Also the house is messy. Then, if someone suddenly comes into the house, the rush flies.  The mind does not get well without doing it properly. Don't be lazy in keeping the house clean and tidy. Laziness is our number one enemy, it should be inculcated in the minds of children.

Parents have come to the conclusion that putting children in school means educating their children. But that is not the case. The child learns more outside of school. And we want to help him learn. At least there is no need to interrupt. It is important to understand why a world-renowned writer like Mark Twain calls the school of thought a disruption. There is only one reason for this. The child learns from birth. But we are not ready to look at his learning.

Some criteria and arguments are permanent. Two plus two becomes four, that's the criterion. There is no need to think about it. The same basic and basic criteria are taught in school education. Learning to sharpen the next intellect depends on assimilating it. No language is important for that, but the intellect has to be brilliant and sharp. The task of sharpening this intellect is to be done through school education.   That is why it is more important for a child to have a good intellect than to get some marks or a percentage in a school examination.  The more we help the child to develop the innate curiosity, the smarter the child can be. How much time the child actually assimilated, rather than how long the child sits in class or how much time he or she appears to be studying in front of you; It matters.  How much time is studied is secondary to how much attention is in the study. A little time but a lot of mindful study is more. Moreover, the study of the one who likes it becomes easier and better.

Here then comes the problem at school. Every child's temperament is different. But in school, teachers teach all children with the same justice. Teachers do not teach differently for everyone. Then according to the receptivity of the child, his learning varies. Learning is less dependent on the teacher. More than that, education depends on the child's learning. If you put the pot under the tap, the tap will be carried all day, but the pot will remain the same.  But if there is a small edge coming out of the tap and the mouth of the pot is under the edge, then why not fill the pot with water. Learning is exactly that. If the child responds to learning and is curious about learning, then what kind of school or what kind of teacher it is, becomes secondary. On the contrary, if there is a good teacher and quality school, but the child is depressed about learning, then those facilities are not used.  That’s why I say we should help kids learn. It is important to stimulate their curiosity and curiosity. Because it inspires learning. These little ones were learning on their own. But his parents did not know his address. 

Raising a child is an honorable experience, but it comes with great responsibility. Improving children and inculcating good habits in children helps to nurture a better future for the world. Here are some good habits for every child to learn from their parents.  Children are always imitating their parents. Parents are a reference point for children. When children  When they are going through any trouble, they run to Pa Lak for guidance. Of children's lives  Parental habits take over from an early age. The behavior of parents when children grow up  And imitate the action. Parents are "role models" for children. The wisdom of parents  and Habits come to children automatically. So the children understood the difference between good and bad habits and should be taught to choose good habits.

Kids tend to crave junk food like biscuits, chocolates, sweets, chips. You can make it at home. You have to convince them that a healthy diet is just as tasty as can. You can make them pasta, pizza, cakes, biscuits, noodles at home. So different colors in the field of food. If you want to get your kids into the habit of healthy eating, follow the colorful path adopt.  In today's stressful life, there is plenty of time to spend with family and elders, but we don't get it. Due to busy schedule you can't sit with children and their stories and personal problems Can't hear So prefer to have a night out with your family. At that time you are on different topics. So, you can't  have interest to discuss.

Do not insult the elders in front of the children.  Instead of punishing or beating children, remind them of their mistakes in a loving way. As well as explain how to avoid such a mistake again. Appreciate the children if they do a good study or a good deed. Do not get addicted in front of the children. Because children are imitating us.

Get to know the children's preferences rather than assuming them all the time. Never use bad words in front of children. Because they remember the words you use and move on to the same words.  Take the tension out of the office and don't irritate the kids. If this happens frequently, it can affect the child's mental state. Avoid frightening children all the time.

Children do not have to fulfill every hut. Hutt should be provided only if necessary. If not, explain to them why we are not taking the item. That means children will also know why their parents didn't give them what they wanted.  Teach children to cultivate various hobbies. It will give scope to their artistic talents. 

Keep trying to teach children new things. This means that children will naturally develop a love for learning new things. Never argue in front of children. Because if this happens again and again, then due to constant parental arguments, children start feeling insecure. Always teach children to respect the adults and elders. Teach them as to how to be obedient. 

Teach children to know everything on their own. For example, if you go on a tour with your children, tell them the history. Efforts should be made to increase their historical knowledge. Always use gentle words when communicating with children. Never make children angry in a loud voice. Never raise your voice. If you do, the children will live under your oppression forever. They will never communicate you freely and frankly their opinion. 

Nowadays children are very accustomed to playing games in mobile. But they should be allowed to play mobile games with a time limit.  Teach them to do their own daily chores, in short teach them to be self-reliant. Teach them to create a schedule that combines daily study and play, and teach them not only how to do it but also how to implement it.

Every mother and father wants to make their children better and stronger. Parents are constantly striving for their children to be strong in any situation. Every parent wants their children to have a bright future. Parents strive to make their children smarter and more conducive to their overall growth.  Many times parents say this sentence while trying to understand or interact with their children. This sentence can have a negative effect on the mentality of the children, so the use of this sentence should be avoided for the holistic development of the children. Let's find out which sentences have a negative effect on children's psyche

1) It is having difficulty: -

It is often the case with children that it is very difficult to tell them when they find it difficult or difficult to do anything. If a child has a difficult task at an early age. To put it bluntly, their mindset becomes negative and children begin to see any task as difficult. They need more effort than you can handle. Sometimes there are many things that young children cannot do. In that case, tell them something, that will be less difficult and their mindset becomes positive when it is understood that it will come later. So never tell kids that any work thing is hard.

2) You will need: -

Little Pune children are very adventurous and full of energy so they can do such things which can harm them. But often parents take great care of their children. And doing this thing for the kids will make you feel like you can fall, you can do it, it means that the children lose their enthusiasm, adventurous attitude in any action because in any action they start looking at it with a look of insecurity. If your child is playing a game, let him play freely this should not be discussed as it will reduce his enthusiasm. Remember that the word you need creates an atmosphere of fear in his mind.

3) I am doing this for you: -

It often happens that children have to struggle a lot while doing a task. At that time the parents do theirs. There is a big difference between helping children with their work and getting them to do it. Every parent helps their children work. If you say that it does the job and you do it completely, then the children depend on you. And the kids don’t put much effort into getting the job done.  If children want to be perfect in any field, they have to develop the determination to struggle.  In order to create this stubbornness, even if they make mistakes on their own, they should be allowed to work.

4) I give up: -

Children learn many things by watching adults. In many ways we fail in life. In such a case, when we communicate at home, we say that I could not do it when I lost. At that time children are affected by those sentences. If you give up early on a task, children will see you and imitate you, and they will give up early on many tasks. Remember children up to the age of eight have brilliant intellects.  They learn from our attitude and logical behavior to adopt the practices or imitate.

5) I will win:-

It is essential to impress upon children that when we start important work and at initial stage we keep a strong confidence, saying that I will win by hook or crook.  So, it is created in the minds of children willing confidence to win the battle.   Babies learn to crawl between the seventh and ninth months of life. This first gesture of freedom, which motivates the little ones to move autonomously from one room to another, is physical and a very important stage for their psychomotor development.  If we appreciate the efforts put in by our children, then persistency is felt, to indicate that i will win.

To learn to crawl, the mother or father should hold the baby on his stomach for a few minutes. Of course, the space in which we leave the child (supervision) should be harmless and clean. For more peace of mind of the parents, it is possible to recreate a stimulating play area equipped with a children's mat, with games of different sizes and placed at different distances. That way, the baby will have another reason to crawl.

Children tend to learn by imitating their peers or adults. So if your toddler sees a mom and dad (or even a sister or brother) walking on all fours, you can motivate him to imitate those movements, gathering the right clues about how to synchronize all the limbs. The best thing is that we increase his curiosity through play, standing next to him or in front of the baby.

Instead of punishing or beating the children for their childish mistake, remind them lovingly if they make a mistake. Also explain how to avoid repeating such a mistake.   Appreciate the children for good study or good work intermittently.  If we punish the children for such childish mistake, their behavior adversely affected and a kind of fear is created in their minds. 

It is but natural we take the tension out of the office or out of business and irritate the kids. If this happens frequently, it can affect the child's mental state.  It is habitual that we took tension or household quarrel from home to office or business platform and mixed up all.  

So, we should avoid to not to frighten children at all. Many have a habit of fearing something if the child does not listen. But by doing so, your child is more likely to become a permanent coward without being brave.  Many children memorize the events took place in their childhood, as oppressions of their parents.   According to the theory of differential oppression, oppression leads to adaptive reactions by children.  Figure and the father being the breadwinner; the children are being conditioned into roles that will keep women oppressed. 

Why do many a parents discriminate between their kids, specially daughter and Son?

It is very unfortunate about the fact, but true. Some parents are well educated and doctors. And still there have been many occasions in the life where one son was treated differently than my elder brother.

It is said have always been a “good girl” in the family.   It is said he did very good in studies and have always better in studies than his brother.  One son wanted to become a doctor. But my parents did not let him study Medicine and made his brother Doctor in the Foreign university. 

Although it might seem my parents do not discriminate between two Sons but their behavior speaks otherwise.  Discrimination means the unjust treatment of children on the grounds of appearance, gender, aptitude, skills and family expectations. It means treating children adversely without any appropriate justification. A negative outlook or prejudice can lead to discrimination. This is usually observed in parents who choose to focus on children who exhibit greater skills, aptitude and talent.  

Studies have discovered that discrimination may cause severe mental and physical health disturbances. It is not uncommon for such children at the receiving end to show signs of anxiety, depression, post traumatic stress disorders and personality disorders. It can also make them prone to illnesses like high blood pressure, heart disease and diabetes later in life.

Discrimination can cause severe and permanent damage to a child’s psyche. Children who are subjected to prejudice, ridicule and emotional trauma develop negative coping strategies. They are at an increased risk for developing issues with aggression, depression, anxiety, issues with self-esteem and in forming and sustaining relationship. 

a) Gender Discrimination

A girl child can easily feel discriminated against if her parents and family members favour her brother over her.  Many parents prefer male boy over female.  Some parents can say with anger, things like “you should never have been born in my family”, “we never liked or wanted a daughter in our family” or “If you were a son, then you would have been able to help and support us in old age”. Buying expensive gifts for the son and pampering him, sending him to a better school and spending on his education, while ignoring the needs of his sister has been a norm in certain parts of our society. 

b) Family Expectations

A household with a family history of high achievers in sports tends to have similar expectations from their children. Even we, as a society, tend to expect that the son of a legendary cricketer will be just as good as his father or the son or daughter of an actor is going to be just as good (if not better) than their parent. Often, a child is forced to take music lessons, dancing lessons, join sports coaching classes just because their family is well known for their achievements in that particular field. Parents are often guilty of forcing their career choices on their children. The child of a doctor engineer or a lawyer must follow their parents’ footsteps and become one themselves. 

c) Academic progress:

Many parents prefer to see the final results of their son. This is when parents and guardians judge the worth of a child based on his or her academic results. When they compare results among siblings and constantly praise the child who is good at studies while condemning the one who is not. Some households place too much of importance on academic achievements and put undue pressure on their children to achieve unrealistic targets.

d)  Handicapped child:

Some parents of physically challenged children become overprotective and lenient towards the child. This can be counterproductive and make the child feel discriminated against. Instead, parents need to instill confidence in such children and encourage them to become self-reliant. 

e) Discrimination Based On height:

Some parents are habitually compare their kids based on height.  As a result, if elder one is discriminated based on height and appreciated the kid having a good height, and insulted the other one.

f) Discrimination Based On Age

Many parents have a soft spot in their hearts for their firstborn or for their youngest child. All children need to feel equally loved and cared for by their parents. Any preferential treatment by parents creates resentment amongst siblings. Children can also hold grudges against their parents for their preferential behaviour for the rest of their lives and it can become a major contributing factor for physical and mental health issues.

Many parents are shouting all over that today's children have no manners or having very bad attitude.   If you are comparing other children from children in the neighborhood, then it is adversely affecting the mind-set of your good children. First check whether they are like that and then blame the children. As a parent, not only the mother but also both the parents should monitor themselves. 

If children make a mistake, instead of punishing or beating them, explain them with love and point out them of their mistake.  Also understand how to avoid such a mistake in future.  Appreciate and praise your children for good study or good performance.   It is advisable to not do addiction in front of children or tell lie. Because children will certainly follow such bad habits.

Always try to teach children new things. That means children will automatically develop interest in learning new things and explore all possibility of learning innovative ideas. Similarly parents should never argue in front of children. Because if this happens frequently, children start feeling insecure due to constant arguments between parents.

The tendency to give to our children what we could not enjoy or achieve is wrong. Remember that your children are not meant to do what you could not achieve. Those children are meant to do things you could never imagine. So don't trap your children in the confines of your dreams. You live your life, let them live theirs.  

Interest in sports should be developed. Many parents bury their children in studies which is very wrong. Let them play to their heart's content in the street sometime, they will be very happy. Ask to participate in a sports event at school. We don't know whether studies will work tomorrow or not but sports will give your child a healthy body, sportsmanship, team work, ability to digest defeat which will be useful throughout life. And maybe he will bring an Olympic medal in coming days.  Sports activities are as important as academic studies, for refreshing body habits. 

Many Parents start striving to make their children a good student, speaker, athlete, dancer, singer, etc. from the time they are in Kindergarten, but rarely do they strive to make a good human being. Develop a positive attitude towards other students, be they of any caste, religion, color or economic status. Develop a tendency to help others from an early age.  Parents should try to pursue their children for having universal qualities.

Parents should take care that their child will become an ideal citizen and patriot.  Guide them a good thing that eat the Rs 100 Cadbury but be careful to pick up the paper and throw it in the dustbin. Make them aware of their duties as citizens in public life. 

If our children don't listen to us, they imitate us. So, at least while they are young, we should set ideal behavior in front of them. If you do not behave in an exemplary manner towards your parents, wife, society and country in front of him, then tomorrow your child will not have the right to feel bad if he behaves wrongly.

Make them history buffs. It is said that those who forget their history repeat the mistakes of history. Our country has a rich history. Tell children interesting stories from history, stories of bravery and other stories. Once a history buff becomes a history buff, they will have a constant source of inspiration even when you are not there and that will be very useful in their life.

The seed of good manners should be planted in the mind so firmly that it should not leave the mind under any circumstances. Whatever the situation may be, one should be able to adapt to the situation. It is also a good quality to overcome the situation without surrendering to it. If the parents inculcate this in the minds of the children, then the child will be successful.

Initial 8 years of a child's life are very crucial, including the first 3 years. The foundation for future health, growth and development is laid in these years. Children's learning speed is highest during this period. Adolescents and children learn enthusiastically if they receive love, affection, encouragement and mental stimulation, as well as health care and nutritious food. All children have rights to legal birth registration, health care, nutrition, education, protection from persecution and discrimination. It is the duty of the parents and the government to see that these rights are respected and protected.  Children learn to behave by imitating the behavior of those around them.  Parents and guardians must be able to recognize the danger signs that the child's growth and development are stunted.

Children start learning from the moment they are born. They learn and grow enthusiastically if they receive proper health care and nutritious food as well as love, affection, encouragement and mental stimulation.  By encouraging children to play and keep their curiosity alive, their growth and development on social, emotional and intellectual levels is normal.  In the first year, the child grows up with care and love. For his growth and emotional development, it is very important to hold him close and talk to him. A baby feels secure being in the mother's lap and receiving breast milk as needed.

Boys and girls have the same physical, emotional, mental and social needs and also have the same learning abilities. Both boys and girls have the same need for love and appreciation.  Crying is a child's way of expressing a need. In that case, comforting him by taking him close and speaking with love creates a relationship of trust and security.  Corporal punishment or exposure to violence can adversely affect children's growth. Children who are punished out of anger eventually become violent themselves. In order for the child to become a perfect member of his family and community, it is necessary to have clear guidelines for behavior in the family and at the same time reward or encourage the child for his good behavior.

Both parents should be involved in child care, along with other family members. Father's role is more important here. In addition to meeting the child's need for love and encouragement, fathers can provide good education, nutritious food and health care. It is possible for the father to take care to keep the environment around the child safe. A father can do housework while the woman of the house is pregnant or nursing a child.

Children who are emaciated, malnourished or often ill later become fearful and depressed and lack the enthusiasm to play, learn and talk to others that is seen in other normal children.  The emotions seen in children are real and powerful. If something doesn't go according to their wish, they get extremely sad. Children are generally afraid of the dark or strangers. If children's opinions or feelings are mocked, ignored or punished for them, such children grow up to be shy or fearful and unable to express their feelings properly.  When children's emotional outbursts are handled by parents with patience and compassion, such children become happy and their mood remains balanced.  If it is kept imbalance continuously, then such children grow up to be shy or fearful in future.  The mother's touch and mother's milk in the first hour after birth strengthens the relationship between the child and the mother and promotes good development and growth.  Breastfeeding for the first 6 months, according to the baby's wishes, safe and nutritious complementary foods after the age of 6 months, and continued breastfeeding for two years or more, not only keep children healthy, but they also enjoy the love of their mothers.  Children should not be left alone for long periods of time. This stunts their physical and mental growth.  Girls need food as much as boys and they also need love and affection as much as boys. All children should be praised and encouraged when they learn something new.

Children who have a nutritious diet and are vaccinated on time are less likely to get sick and their ability to play, learn and interact is enhanced. This not only saves the family's overall money spent on healthcare, but also reduces the child's absence from school due to illness, saves the effort of the parents in taking care of the sick child and they also do not have to stay at home for the sake of the sick child.  Children try things in different ways, compare results, ask questions about it, face problems and learn from it. Games improve their language and thinking skills, decision making, creativity and organizational skills. Encouraging a disabled child to play is very important for that child.  Children play for fun, but it is through these toys that their education and development takes place to a large extent. Playing increases their knowledge, experience and confidence and awakens their curiosity.  Parents must exercise restraint when a very young child insists on doing something on his own without help. Because the struggle to complete a new and difficult task is a positive step in the child's development.

At different stages of development, the child should be provided with different toys suitable for him. Children can play with clay, sand, water, cardboard boxes, wooden blocks, lids, just like store-bought toys.  Children undergo similar changes and develop new abilities. Caregivers should take note of these changes to help her or him develop faster. If parents are not interested in guiding their children, then children learn how to socialize by observing and imitating others. They also understand what kind of behavior is acceptable and what is not.   An important example that shapes a child's behavior and personality is the behavior of adults and older children around him. Children imitate the behavior of others, not what people say. Children learn to behave when parents yell or spank them. If adults treat others with courtesy, respect and patience, children will follow suit.  Children like to pretend or impersonate someone else. This too should be allowed as it helps him to understand and accept the thinking of others.

Parents  need to know the important milestones in a child's character development. If a child has a physical or mental disability, it is necessary to recognize it and seek expert help on time and raise such a child with love and care.  All children grow at the same rate, but each child develops at his or her own rate.   Observing a child's responses to hearing, seeing, and touch can give parents or caregivers early warning of future developmental problems or disabilities. If the child's growth rate is slow, parents should spend more time with the child, talking, playing and massaging him.

A disabled boy or girl needs more love and protection, while parenting. Like any normal child, such a child needs to be registered, fed by the mother, vaccinated and protected from molestation or abuse with nutritious food. Also such children should be encouraged to play with other normal children. They should be encouraged to overcome disabilities.  A child who is under depression or under stress sometimes behaves differently. Such children suddenly break friendships, become sad, lazy or mischievous. They cry or, beat other children. Instead of playing, they sit alone, their enthusiasm in school decreases. Their appetite and sleep also decrease.  Parents of such children carry more responsibility of having patients. 

Suggestions while parenting :

1. Talk to the child as much as possible, play, point to the objects and tell him the names.
2. Encourage conversation with all family members at mealtimes.
3. If the child is stunted or has a physical disability, focus more on things that can be adjusted. Give him more stimulation and spend more time with him.
4. Do not keep the child in one position for more than an hour.
5. Keep the area safe to avoid accidents.
6. Continue to breastfeed him, give him a variety of food as needed
7. Help the child to eat by himself with a bowl-spoon.
8. Ensure that the child is fully immunized and receives micronutrient supplements as recommended.

1. Teachers meet with first grade parents before the start of the school year, ideally at the end of August. Teachers use the first meeting to get to know the parents, to tune in to the needs of the family to communicate with the school, with the teacher, to create an optimistic mood for educational activities, to remove the family's fears about the school.  
2. Familiarize parents with teachers, school, administration, school services and each other.
3. Help the family prepare their child for first grade.

Where can parents get advice on raising a child?

What are the laws of upbringing in the family?

I. Familiarity with School Principal and School Administration.

II. Introduction of the teacher working with the class.

III. A tour of the school building.

IV. Mini-lecture “Laws of upbringing in the family. What should they be?"

V. who asked questions to the parents on the subject of the meeting

The meeting is held in the classroom where the children will be teaching. The classroom is festively decorated (you can put your wish on the stand, students who graduated from a creative elementary school). On the blackboard are photographs of graduates who studied with the teacher who recruited the class.  Today we declare you and ourselves as members of a great ship crew called "School". Our journey starts today and ends 12 years later. So long will we be together, and as our ship sails in the ocean of knowledge, we will experience storms and tempests, sorrows and joys. I want this journey to be interesting, enjoyable and significant in the life of every child and every family.  Self-presentation of families at parent meetings is very interesting. It is a kind of visiting card of the family. It is advisable to tape the parents talking about themselves in the meeting. Such work will make it possible to quickly determine the characteristics of families, their degree of openness, family values ​​and relationship arrangements. It will be important for the homeroom teacher to analyze the short stories about the family.

The famous teacher and psychologist Simon Solovechik, whose name is important for a whole generation of students, parents and teachers, has published rules that can help parents prepare a child to communicate with classmates at school. Parents need to explain these rules to the child and with their help prepare the child for adulthood

● Don't take away from others, but don't give up on yourself either.

● They asked - give, they are trying to take away - try to defend yourself.

● Don't fight unnecessarily.

● They call to play - go, they don't call - ask permission to play together, it's not a shame.

● Play fair, don't let your teammates down.

● Do not provoke anyone, do not complain, do not beg for anything. Don't ask anyone for anything twice.

How do you view your children? The report shows that in Asia, the birth of a girl child does not bring happiness.  According to the report, corruption of girls still exists not only in Latin America but also in “educated families”.  In fact, girls are not second-class. An ancient father, Jacob, described all his offspring, including his daughters born up to that time, saying, that These are the children that God has favored [me] with.  It is further added that irrespective of it is girl or boy, we should accept the birth happily and perform our duties as parent.

Does your society expect a woman to give birth to as many children as possible? Ideally,  it is a personal decision for a married couple to decide how many children they want. What if parents cannot feed, clothe and educate many children? A couple should definitely consider this factor when deciding how large their own family should be. Some couples, who are unable to take care of all their children, entrust relatives with the responsibility of raising some of their children.  Some couple do not understanding about number of children for their family, due to illiteracy or orthodox thinking. Responsible couples try to plan to limit the number of members in their 'household' so that they can 'provide for themselves'. Can they use contraception to do so? This is also a personal decision and if the married couple has made a decision about it, the choice of birth control is also a personal matter. 'Each shall bear his own burden.  

"Give the child an education suited to his condition." Another great duty of parents is to educate their children. But when should this education begin? Right from childhood.   Some responsible or educated couple understand the important of education to their children and built up the carrier from childhood.

All Babies need more From birth, their brain is primed to receive and store information, and the primary source of this is their parents. Consider language as an example. How well a child learns to speak and write, seems to be closely related to the nature of that child's early interpersonal interactions with their parents.   A child's first words are always a great joy for parents. Many mothers are waiting for this important event, and if their one-year-old child does not say "mom", they sound the alarm and run to specialists, to find out when children start to speak their first words. Doctors and speech therapists reassure parents, explaining that speech develops gradually and the first words appear when the child is ready for it.   A baby's first words are an important stage in his speech development. The time of appearance of the first words depends on how the speech developed in the previous stage.   A baby communicates with adults by screaming. In this way, he can communicate his needs to his mother. By the end of the first month of life, the baby begins to hear the surrounding sounds and respond to speech addressed to him.   A communication:  Spending time with your child will help maintain communication. The more you keep in touch, the better you will know how his personality is developing. However, remember that communicating is more than just talking. “I had to develop the art of listening, listening with all my heart,” said one mother. Her patience paid off when her son began to share his feelings with her.  

Most parents or those who are close to doing so have a lot of doubts about how to educate a boy or girl; Because they have this most difficult task and the one where mistakes are most often made. No one is perfect or there is no path to education or superiority over others. However, there are various tips, techniques or methods that can guide you in teaching them well, which we will talk about next.  The first thing is that we're not trying to educate them, so it's okay to worry as much as possible; But sometimes we go beyond this and achieve the opposite result (which we want to avoid): due to trauma and disorder, there are some things we should take into account before we start educating our children.   According to studies, taking more care in educating a child does not necessarily mean that you can improve their health (behavioral and mental). You must remember that it is like a drug, that is, the necessary dose is necessary to achieve good results, but if you increase it, you are also increasing the side effects and complications.  So, it is important that what is your course of action plan for your children's education.  

Currently, there are many methods for early development of the child. Parents are sending growing children to school with "zero" knowledge, they say, that everything will be learned. And the requirements for first class students have changed. Now the first grade is taken by trained boys. Modern six-year-olds already need to read elementary numbers and add and subtract. But does that mean they are fully prepared for school?  It usually happens that parents can send their child as soon as possible, in view of important of education. For example, not with six, but for four and a half years. There are different explanations for this. Basically, this is done to have a "spare" year before entering university, or simply out of reluctance to fall behind others.   And what's worse? ". It is surprising that such an intention can harm a child later in life. After all, it is necessary to evaluate your child passively, and not from the position of blindly loving relatives. Just because a child knows how to recognize letters and take a little does not mean that he is ready for school. Poverty is, first of all, determined from a psychological point of view.

Adults remember that play is the most important at this stage of a child's development. It is important to know that the world is learning. Every child needs to complete their play before they develop a desire to learn. Seven years - age for first-graders is not all random. A smooth transition from play to school is most appropriate. There is nothing scary and dangerous for children in early development methods. True, only if the child is not forced to do so - otherwise we cannot avoid the problem.  

What if kids don't really understand why they're actually studying, and what if they care? First, you need to find the root cause - it can be different depending on the age. You can not drip anything to your child with boring notes and a belt. But a child can come to school with a sense of continuous study and thorough study. Not without your help.  

Try to remember yourself in these years. what do you like After all, the main problem of adults - they completely forget what they themselves are in the first grade. And remember that it is important to help your child later and instill a desire to learn.

A healthy cynicism is essential for parents.  Because no one is perfect: neither us, nor our children, nor our schools. While instilling responsibility and independence in your child, do not deprive him of freedom and self-expression. After all, study means creativity, and sometimes creativity, or rather, more often, does not tolerate a strict regime. Sometimes it's not scary to take a break, "score", then find out or tell the teacher that you forgot your notebook.  This is so-called social mastery and is not a lie at all. This is especially necessary if the child is tired, sick, over-excited (family vacations, etc.). If you, for objective or subjective reasons, "rest - work", that is, do homework after 8-9 at night. However, nothing will fall from him as well as from school. Homework is just homework, not all huge and wonderful childhood that passes so quickly and never coming back.  If we think about how to properly organize educational work at home, we will realize that this task is twofold. On the one hand, you need to help the child find the right layout, allocate space for classes, determine the best order of preparing lessons and on the other hand, make a constant habit of sitting at lessons despite the desire to play or walk, creating the ability to quickly acquire. Engaged in work, do it without distraction and at a good pace, so that the child's slight internal deformity or some kind of external inconvenience does not become a serious obstacle.

Hygienists have established two peaks in the dynamics of performance of children in primary school. The first one is from 8 am to 11 am. At this time, as you know, the child is in the classroom. Then this indicator decreases. The second rise is between 4 pm and 6 pm, followed by a sharp decline. Parents are faced with this situation while trying to control the home-work preparation process, they make their child sit for homework late in the evening and forced them periodically for regular home-work.

You need to know that the weekly performance of elementary school students is highest on Tuesday and Wednesday and lowest on Friday. Next, on Saturday, a gradual increase starts till Tuesday. In dynamics, the peak is October, January - March - decline, after which the level of efficiency increases until June.  

First of all, it is necessary to develop in children the habit of preparing lessons rigorously and systematically. Whatever it is: TV shows, birthdays, guests arriving, doctor's appointments, homework needs to be done and done well and thoroughly. The formation of such a habit is also facilitated by the accuracy of parents, their interest in children's affairs at school and at home, their attitude towards homework as a serious and responsible business.  Parental interest in children's educational affairs, attention to learning issues, encourages children to develop a sense of responsibility for the results of educational activities, children fail to learn. It is very important to have a conversation with the children in the family about the industrial activities of the parents, which will help them understand the importance of teaching the children better.  Check if it is properly organized the work area should be adequately lit. The desktop is placed near the window so that the light falls from the left. In the evening, the table lamp on the left turns on, it is desirable to have a lamp shade of green color, because this color is the least tiring for the eyes. While reading, it is helpful to place the book on a stand at an angle of 45 degrees. When preparing lessons, there should be no unnecessary items on the table.  Everything should be in place. These are textbooks, notebooks, pens etc. You should always have a pile of paper so you don't have to tear pages out of your notebook every now and then. Near the table, it is advisable to hang a shelf with textbooks, dictionaries, reference books and other (at arm's length) necessary books... In front of your eyes - a calendar and a schedule of lessons.

It is not recommended to use a heavy handle, as its weight increase by 1 gram increases fatigue. Well, then this is half the battle. And the student's workplace should be such that a person of his type prepares you for work, awakens the desire to engage in academic work.

Homework quickly becomes tiring when you work at a desk that doesn't fit your height. By taking a "bent over the table" posture, we obstruct blood circulation and breathing, which negatively affects the heart and brain function. Child height should be from 120 to 129 cm, table height should be 59 cm, 130 to 139 cm - 62 cm, height 140 to 149 cm - 68 cm. table And the difference in the height of the chair is 21 to 27 cm. The distance from the eyes to the surface of the table is 35 cm, the distance between the chest and the table should be equal to the width of the palm. It is necessary to ensure that the legs rest on the floor or table leg. It is not recommended to replace the chair with a stool, as sitting without support on the back quickly becomes tiring.

It is better to start homework an hour or an hour and a half after your child returns from school, so that he has time to take a break from class, but is not yet tired from home entertainment and games with friends. Homework should be done at a time clearly set for them ie. At the same time.  It is better to start the class at 4 o'clock. But if the child is busy with any other important issues (for example, attends a meeting or sleeps after lunch, which is very useful for a small student), then, of course, you can sit for lessons later. But in any case it cannot be postponed till evening. Children in the second period should do their homework in the morning.

It should be noted that if the child works with noise, fatigue increases very quickly. It is important for parents to ensure that there is no noise in the room where the child is doing homework.

A clear rhythm of classes is essential for successful implementation of homework. For example, after 25 minutes of exercise, you should take a break of 5-10 minutes, during which it is advisable to do several physical exercises.

Another important aspect of homework preparation is that the child needs to be constantly taught independently. The ideal situation is when parents simply create normal conditions for doing homework and control the results of his work. However, it should be remembered that excessive intervention of adults in the process of preparing a child's homework makes this work completely useless. Constant imitation of the teacher's work at home reduces the child's responsibility for his behavior in the lesson.  No less harmful is the adult's lack of interest in the child's school responsibilities. With no experience of independent work, any accidental mistake can lead to serious delays: the child gets into increasing difficulties and loses confidence in himself. Indifference of close people for his life causes isolation and sometimes loss of constant contact between parents and children.  The most common difficulty in teaching a young student is independent work—forming the habit of working without distraction. Success is easiest in families where adults know how to concentrate. Analyze your own behavior and try to set a positive example for your baby.  What subject should you start with your homework? "From math!" - Say something, "From a written assignment in Russian!" - Objections of others. "From reading!" - Prove the third. Who is right? Only the family can answer this question. Observe the child: which subject is more difficult for him, with which he should start. Try to avoid the word "mistake". Don't make fun of children's mistakes.    If you are working on a topic that is easy for the child, do not answer any of his questions addressed to you until the work is done, see if there are any observations, suggest to find them yourself.

Hang a multiplication table over the bed and learn to multiply and divide at the same time. Be happy with what you get. Stay ahead of school: Learn to multiply by two, then four, then eight. Come to three, learn to "six" and "do".

Learn to multiply by "5" with a clock with the movement of the arrows - and teach time table recognition and learning. Look at each column. Teach your child to look for characteristics and patterns.  Read math problems and present them as events. Not more than two of them in one task (if the task is in two stages). Consider one thing first. For example, “They brought 2 boxes of 3 kg apples to the store. And another 5 kg of plums. How many kilos of fruit were brought? Then we will deal with another phenomenon. Let's learn apples and plums together.  Be sure to read books aloud with your child at night. Think of the pictures. Note the accuracy or carelessness of the artist, returning to the text as you go. If there are passages that can be read by role, use this opportunity. And don't just re-read it several times. This is boring.  

In the case of language, pay attention to complete the exercises completely (after all, there may be several tasks). If you have difficulty, do all the exercises out loud, but do not write any letters or words in the textbook. When it is done in writing, the child remembers everything again. Leave the room while he is doing the work, don't stand behind you. Don't get angry at your child or make him angry.  Sometimes parents are too busy with work and lack time to check homework. Some people think that the teacher should check the homework. In reality, the situation is this: the teacher gives marks to the student for completed exercises, learned poems or rules, that is, for the final result. Outside of the teacher's field of vision are the student's work patterns when creating these tasks.  Here the help of parents is needed, who can monitor the process of completing homework and, if necessary, give help to the children. Often, parents, instead of telling the child the correct method of preparing homework, perform the task of control: they ask to show the completed exercise, read the learned poem, read the given text, rules, etc.  Many people are familiar with this picture: the child did exercises carelessly, made many mistakes. The mother, dissatisfied with the work, at first scolded the child for a long time, scolding him for dishonesty, carelessness, and then forced him to rewrite the exercises. Instead, it would be better to find out how the child understood the rule, reinforce it with examples, and then ask for exercises  or, for example, asking a girl to recite a given poem. She stumbled, unable to read to the end, reading without expression. Instead of watching the girl learn poetry, her parents scolded her. But she, having memorized a poem, every time began to read it from the beginning, from the first quatrain. It is quite possible that it was enough for her parents to remind her of the techniques of memorizing poetry correctly, and the girl would quickly cope with the task.  Often there is a mistake when parents take the student's place at work: they solve a problem "in draft" for him, do exercises, ask the child if everything is clear to him; Point out the mistakes made by the student, name the correct answer. Whether the adult wants it or not, in this case, he encourages the student to do his homework carelessly: the student soon learns that trying to do it for himself.  And it is not necessary to think, everything, parents will find mistakes, prompt , and help. Some parents and grandparents behave even worse: they leave their business and sit with their child for “lessons”. And he, imitating a lack of understanding, pushes adults to a warning, only expanding it. 

The occurrence of such a situation is not immediately noticed by the parents and themselves, pampering the children, solving examples instead of them, doing exercises, suggesting the sequence and course of solving problems and making the necessary calculations on the draft.  The child only needs to rewrite it in a notebook. He achieves his goal with stubborn silence, answers "randomly", declaring that the task is incomprehensible. In this case, the parent's mistake is that, controlling the completion of homework, they change the place of work or the stage of control instead of the student.  It also happens. Parents praise the child for the work, they think that the exercise is better, more accurately written than yesterday, and the teacher puts "3" again. If such a "difference" at home and school assessment often occurs, it distracts the student, he does not develop the criteria of "what is good and what is bad".  A high point is when parents show the school child that his experiences are his parents' experiences, his happiness is their happiness. Punishing children for not understanding work, inability to complete it, is a bad aid in upbringing. Parental help in completing homework should be aimed at developing the ability to overcome difficulties.  In the cultivation of a responsible attitude towards homework in the third grade, satisfaction and enjoyment of independently obtained results play an important role. "Well done! I guessed it myself! I made the right decision! The task is difficult, but you coped with it! I knew you could complete the task yourself! - this should be the mother's reaction. In this case, parents encourage the child, Builds confidence in his power.

The same old drama about children and their homework plays out every night in millions of homes across the country. I may take a different part in it but the situation is always the same. Parents throughout history have always tried to help children prepare their homework.  This help ranges from personal brief explanations to having the parent complete the task instead of the child. In any case, there are many problems. In an attempt to deal with these problems, parents will use trial and error, bribery, gifts, logic and whatever else they think will work in this matter.  The decisions will be on the guess work.  There is no doubt that parents' motives are the most natural and logical. Is there anything wrong with natural parent engagement? In fact, it is not the cause itself that creates anxiety and stress for both children and parents, but the techniques used to achieve the goal.   For some children, school is a constant source of stress. When you consider the demands of completing school assignments, the worry of whether your parents will approve of you, the fear of failure, etc., it becomes clear that children can see home as a kind of paradise where they can rest in peace. 

If they also experience stress at home, when their parents are in over their heads doing their homework, where is the place where they can "hang their hat on their nails"?   For working parents, this can be compared to a situation where you work all day and get your share of stress and return home to the same stressful environment. Estimate how much you would tolerate a similar situation.  

Schedule of homework: It helps many children when they have a clear schedule of when to do homework...   For some of them, the burden of responsibility is too great if they have to decide on their own when to start homework. These children can decide whether to do their homework after coming home from school or after dinner. It is their own business, depending on their learning style.   However, once the time is fixed, you should stick to the schedule as closely as possible. This, in particular, will help to deal with the problem of tracking the children and putting them to work. After a while, homework will become a natural part of their daily schedule. Remember that the time allotted for homework should not interfere with anything else. Phone calls, TV shows, and more can wait until work is done.

This act of parenting gives the child a sense of accomplishment, a sign of the parent's altruistic goal, as well as a sense of security and confidence that the work has been done without mistakes. The child will bring this confidence with him to the classroom and, accordingly, will be more confident when he does class work. However, if it is clear to you that the child does not understand certain material, you need to let the teacher know about it.

For some children, the problem of which task to start with homework becomes a difficult choice, and they may struggle with this problem for a long time.  There are children who use horizontal perspective. This happens when they consider all tasks equally important and do not set any priorities. If you prefer to prioritize assignments, ask your child which assignments should be done first, which should be done second, and so on.  Many children tend to use a quantitative approach (how many tasks are left) rather than a qualitative one (considering the relative complexity of the tasks). This means that if they are given five different tasks, they will do the four easiest tasks first. From their point of view, this leaves them with only one task to complete, even if it is in fact the most difficult.  For many parents, this is a big and ongoing problem. The only thing that can be said about this is that parents who use this method of control not only find themselves in a lot of frustration and anger, but also develop "learned helplessness".  Many parents will tell you that their children don't know how to function if a parent isn't sitting next to them. In fact, it is not true that children cannot work; They consciously choose not to work. When the parents decide to move away from the child, some children stop working and do not give their full attention to him.  This is a very unhealthy "addiction", because the child cannot reproduce anything like this in the classroom. As a result, the child may decide not to work in class at all and bring home incomplete assignments.  Thus, they can completely capture the attention of mom or dad. After a full day at work, parents are very tired and the mere thought of sitting next to their child for three hours straight can cause problems.  If you already find yourself in such a situation, you should not immediately destroy the established order of things. Take small steps. Sit at the end of the table for several days in a row. Then gradually increase the distance between you and homework until your child is completely independent.

Parents often tend to notice mistakes first. The next time the child brings in his work for review, first note that he has completed the work without mistakes, correct spelling, etc.

For questions where mistakes were made, "I think if you check this example again, you'll get a slightly different answer."  The child can now return to these instances without feeling disgusted and "inappropriate." If you start by analyzing the wrong work, and get angry, the child will worry that he has upset you, instead of correcting the work.

It may be convenient to check small portions of the assignment. For most kids, it's best if they get immediate confirmation that everything was done right.  Ask your child to do just five examples first and check them.  Check the ones that are correct and move the child to the next set of examples.  In this way, the child receives immediate feedback and approval and is positively motivated to complete the next task.  In addition, if the child starts doing something wrong, it is possible to detect and explain the mistake immediately, so that the child does not have to redo the whole task later.  Sometimes parents let their child sit on homework for hours at a time until it is done. If the child really works that long and the task really takes time to complete, then that's fine.  However, if you see an hour or two after starting work, the child is in the same position 10 minutes after starting work, then you need to stop this activity.   The only thing you will achieve otherwise is to instill a heightened sense of "inadequacy" in the child. Perhaps you decide to finish the child's work after a certain time and write a note to the teacher explaining the whole situation. Most likely, this type of problem can be solved in a meeting with the teacher.  First, he may not understand the new material in the class and therefore cannot complete the homework.  Secondly, the child may have already developed a sense of helplessness. In this case, if he sits at work for a long time, there is a high probability that the task will be completed by the parents.  Third, the child may have serious learning problems in general, especially if such situations are repeated over and over again and he cannot cope with such tasks.

Even by encouraging the children to participate in encouraging competitions, they can be diverted to reading skills and interest in literatures.

Some parents try different experiment for their children in various ways and means. When they were both 4-5 years old, they were asked to perform short dramas based on what they had heard - the audience at home. Both presented it with spontaneous dialogues and entrances. With such enthusiasm that for almost two years, many plays were performed in our house every week.

It is the responsibility of adults to inculcate the love of reading in small children. From the age of three or four years old children should be attracted to books by showing them colorful and picture books. The songs and stories in those books should be read out loud. Nowadays, such beautiful books are also available in many reginal language.  Similarly, children imitate if the elders of the house are seen reading a book, then the same culture is automatically passed on to the children.  Many Children imitate adults while growing up. If you and other people in your household love to read and discuss books, it will influence the children as well and they will also develop a love for reading. Books. If there is a library nearby, get your children enrolled there after the annual exam. There is a lot of children's literature and fascinating books.

Everyone does not likes reading habits. Most people get bored of reading. So how can children be an exception. If you want to develop interest in reading in children, you should give them picture books to read. Read the picture and show it. Once interest is created, children are diverted to reading automatically.

One simple solution :Bring a small white board, tell the boy or girl that we are going to play school- school and parents sit in front of him/her as students and ask him or her to teach us now (teach the subject that the child wants to study) On the one hand the parents have information about the subject. Give the children in advance What happens in all these games is that the feeling of being a teacher first overwhelms the children and now what we have to teach someone comes to us first.  So, with the help of such practice, loves for reading the book is created from the childhood.

When I was in 4th standard, our teacher collected 16 rupees from each student and brought a bunch of interesting things. These were books for 3rd and 4th students only. When Guruji used to read books, he used to give books according to everyone's intellectual level, which one would like. Gave me the book Alibaba and the Forty Thieves.

1) Children often imitate their parents. In my opinion, if they see their parents reading, they can also develop a desire to read. His next step is to get sweet.

2) Read books to children at bedtime or by themselves according to your choice and skill. Reading the book like this is also very beneficial. In some foreign countries, I am the first to read books to children as young as one year old. 

3) Books should be bought in the same way as many things are bought in the house. If it is not possible to buy at all, it is possible to go to the library once a week.

4) Keep a small bookcase where the books can be seen in the area of ​​the house where children move a lot. Their books should be kept within easy reach. Books should also be gifted along with other birthday gifts.

If the children are not reading despite all the above tricks or measures, we should not impose upon them. Reading is the best habit but one should not be compelled upon to follow.  Reading improves memory and  ability. It is a healthy habit that can help kids in and outside the classroom. Along with that improved brain power comes an improved vocabulary. Reading to your child is a wonderful way to build your child's language, social and emotions skills. 

Everyone does not like reading. Most people get bored of reading. So how can children be an exception. If you want to develop interest in reading in children, you should give them picture books to read. Read the picture and show it. Once interest is created, children read automatically.  Even we should have practice of giving books as a gift on Birthday or festivals.

As a parent of child, taking more care in educating a child does not mean that you can improve their health (behavioral and mental) to boost up education. You must remember that it is like a medicine, that is, the required dose is necessary to get good results, but if you increase it, you are also increasing the side effects and complications.  Over-dose of medicines is always fatal.  

It is counterproductive to monitor everything in our children's lives, especially when they are in advanced stages like adolescence and young adulthood. If you try hard to educate them, you won't be able to change them. All kids are different and don't have the same tastes, so don't worry if he doesn't like sports or piano lessons. On the other hand, if the parents are not what we want, it does not mean that it is our fault.

All kids are not having interest in education, so parents have to study for developing the test in their mind.  There are so many ways To Make Your .Child Interested In Studying, namely :

a) Reward them. For younger kids, it is often the bribery of snacks or treats that keeps them motivated to do anything. 

It is experienced by many parents that they bet with them that if you achieve and pass this year with so and so percentage,  then reward will be something.  Indirectly, it is a kind of inducement which make your child try with a strong mind to achieve.

b) Make it fun. Never scold your children for not learning something properly.  Scolding the child means creation negativity in the mind.  it could cause emotional distress and behavioral problems.  Scolding does not work for anyone. Scolding causes escalated arguments. Your child will be educated, by what is modeled and demonstrated to them.  Every child/person has their own set expectations and temperament. So, children need to work on self regulation, just like many adults.

c) Compliment them:

Praise is when you tell children that you like the way they’re behaving.  Praise works best when it describes the behaviour you like. Encouragement is praise for effort – for example, when you can see your child is trying hard. You can praise and encourage your child at any age.  Praise is when you tell your child that you like what they’re doing or how they’re behaving – for example, ‘Great job, Adil’, ‘Well done, Akil’ or ‘That’s awesome, Adi’.  Praise nurtures your child’s confidence and sense of self.  By using praise, you’re showing your child how to think and talk positively about themselves. You’re helping your child learn how to recognise when they do well and feel proud of themselves.  You can praise children of different ages for different things. You might praise a younger child for sharing or for leaving the park when asked. You can praise a teenage child for coming home at an agreed time, or for starting homework without being reminded.

d) Encourage them to ask questions. 

A curious child is a happy child. One who is imaginative, playful, open-minded, frank and a critical thinker.  It appeals parents to be friendly.  

As adults, we should play our part in encouraging children to be more curious and ask more questions about the topics that inviting interest from everyday things like why the sky goes dark at night to bigger concepts like why some people look or speak differently than others.  That's how it is becoming encouraging for the children.

If you’re raising a child, here are four useful ways in which you can help encourage them to ask more questions and continue to learn about the world around them.

e) Gift them frequently.

6. Successful strategies for textbook assignments.

Most textbooks have questions at the end of each chapter. Often children do not know what to pay attention to when reading a passage.  Before reading the textbook chapter, discuss the end-of-chapter questions with your child. By using this strategy, they will understand what important information they need to pay attention to.  Some children have a tendency to remember absolutely everything.  Giving such a child a pencil and asking them to mark a word or sentence might be the answer to a question. Then the child will find it easier to navigate the text while searching for answers to questions in the book.   Consider recording chapters from a textbook onto a tape recorder. Research shows that the more different senses are used to receive information, the more information will be absorbed. Therefore, it makes sense to tape chapters from history or science textbooks so that the child listens to the recording while reading. Thus, both visual and audio channels of information reception will participate.  From time to time, add a joke, or a song, or some kind of message to keep the child interested and inviting attention.  It is therefore, necessary to judge the interest of the child in study and remedy the solution.

7. Pay attention to non-verbal cues.

Parents often say that they never get frustrated or yell at them when they help them with their homework.  Everything will be fine if all communication is on verbal level.  But as we know, non-verbal communication is a very essential part of communication. Therefore, many signals, especially negative ones, can be transmitted very easily, even if you are not aware of it yourself.  Grinning, tension in posture, sighs, raised eyebrows, and other manifestations of "body language" are all non-verbal responses. If kids are empathetic enough, they'll pick up on these cues, which will add tension to your homework relationship.  All this is especially important for young children, who do not distinguish their activities between parental disapproval and loss of parental love.

8. Completing homework for the child :

It is bad habit of completing homework for the child, by parent as a sign of love of the child.  Some parents are willing to do all their homework for their child. A parent's initial motivation may help a child tackle a particularly difficult task, but the end result can be disastrous.  Children feel "inadequate" when their parents finish their work for them.  First, they perceive them as their failures.  Secondly, they feel that they will never be able to fulfill the task like mother or father.

There are parents who conduct annual projects for their children (analog term paper, final assessment in terms of volume and importance, but not only in university but also in school- approx. This practice increases children's sense of dependence and helplessness.  If the child is unable to complete the assignment, even though he has tried honestly, write a note to the teacher in which you explain the whole situation. Most teachers will respond appropriately.  Memo for Students "How to Prepare Homework".  

• Do all your homework daily and carefully.
• Make it a habit to prepare lessons at the same time every day (if you study in the first shift, then from 16-17 hours, and if in the second, from 8-9 hours)
• Always prepare your lessons in the same place
• Organize your workplace properly, removing all unnecessary
• Turn off the table, TV, music.
• Start preparing lessons with topics of average difficulty, then move to more difficult for you and finally easy topics.
• After classes of 30-40 minutes, rest for 10-15 minutes
• When preparing lessons, do not be distracted, do not listen to conversations
• Use dictionaries and reference books.
• After completing the written work, check it carefully. Better to use a draft first and then rewrite it cleanly.
• If you meet incomprehensible words, do not understand the problem, ask about it
• Parents, colleagues, teachers.
• Revise the material of previous lessons daily, especially rules, formulas, theorems, laws.
• After preparing your lessons, rest, walk in the air, help with your homework.

What does this mean for doing your homework?

This means that the child can:

1. Navigate the amount of work he has to complete;
2. Plan the action: what he will do first, what he will do next, etc.;
3. distribute time (imagine how long this or that task will take);
4. Understand the task at hand while performing a specific task;
5. Apply the skills and knowledge necessary to complete a specific task;
6. Imagine an algorithm of actions that will help him if he has difficulty completing the task. For example, if I don't know how to translate an assignment, I: a) look at the glossary at the end of the textbook; b) I find the right words and translate them; c) I translate the entire task and understand what needs to be done to complete it.

This question is important, first of all, because independent activity skills are necessary not only for successful learning at school, but also in normal life.

As a result, the development of independence of school children is a concern for their future.

Self-reliance rarely appears on its own. Paradoxical as it may seem, children's independence is the result of the sequential actions of adults, primarily parents, in school children's developmental stages.

If a child has learned to do homework independently, turning to adults for help only in case of serious difficulties, then this is a critical step in the development of a student on the path to independence. On the contrary, the formation of the habit, in the slightest difficulty, asking for help can lead the child to a sense of his own insignificance, and subsequently - to uncertainty.

Reminder: How to help your child with household chores

• Begin student development with conversation. As you prepare your child for independence, tell him: Before doing homework, ventilate the room, turn off the TV. The room should be quiet. Remove toys and anything not related to school from the table. Prepare what you need to complete the assignment (textbook, notebook, etc.).  
• Assigned lessons must be evenly distributed over the days of the week, so that there is no "now thick, now empty".
• An in-depth performance of any one lesson should not exceed 30 minutes, so you may need to go back to complete some tasks several times.
• There should be a break of 10 to 20 minutes while doing various tasks.
• It is advisable to do all the work on weekdays in order to fully relax at the end of the week.

Notes to parents.

• Don't make your child's homework an instrument of torture. Create a positive motivation for doing homework, its long-term perspective. Reward your child for homework well done, praise him, enjoy his results associated with positive qualities;
• Help your child with homework only if needed;
• Do not try to complete tasks for your child, it is better if he does not do his homework at all;
• Create a culture of mental work in the child, ask what additional materials can be used for high-quality homework;
• Use opportunities for extracurricular and stimulating activities at school to reduce study load at home;
• Consult the subject teacher if your child finds it difficult to prepare homework.

Time for homework

Lessons should be done simultaneously. The optimal and most productive time is considered to be 16 to 18 hours. The average duration of first grade active attention is slightly higher for fourth graders at 20 minutes. Then the performance begins to decrease, rest is necessary. To prepare 2 hours of lessons, you can do 2-3 breaks, 5 minutes each.

Teaching literacy, mathematics, foreign languages, computer science lessons are the most difficult (but often in person).

Therefore, it is better to prepare home lessons like this:

1st Lesson - Lessons of average difficulty

2-3 lessons - lessons of maximum difficulty

4th Lesson - Easy

It may happen that the child spends a lot of time doing homework. Reasons should be sought for poor organization of this process, insufficient parental control or characteristics of the child's psyche. In this case, parents should consult a teacher or psychologist.

Homework execution algorithm :

• Familiarize yourself with your homework material before starting work, prepare everything you need.
• Decide in which order it is best to complete the assignments: Oral assignments should alternate with written assignments. But first we have to take care of it.
• If any notes have been made in the lesson on the subject under study, these must be reviewed before completing the assignment.
• Create a plan for the task (if necessary). Making a plan makes it easy enough to deal with its implementation.
• Do not forget about self-control! Self-control should be carried out not only after the end of the work, but also directly during it, so that not only the error can be detected immediately, but its cause is determined. It is also necessary to examine your knowledge and ways of doing things after some time to find out the strength of the integration of educational material.

Teachers primary grade many different organization techniques "Minutes of calligraphy."The procedure for their implementation requires content, volume and frequency of implementation:

1-2 classes - 2 rows, daily.

3-4 classes-3 rows, 2-3 times a week.

The teacher writes the patterns in the notebook. In class, on the blackboard, writes a sample with comments, pointing to typical mistakes and ways to correct them. It is important to draw children's attention to the position of the notebook, the fit, whether they hold the pen correctly or not. Many teachers use various devices to create calligraphy writing:

Many teachers use various tools to create calligraphy writing: stencils, tracing paper, etc. To stimulate children in practice, various methods of encouragement are used: inscriptions on the cover (it's fun to check your notebook!), exhibitions best notebooks. Motivational techniques include daily evaluation of completed work in the context of calligraphy.

Usually, the assessment is done in the field. Sometimes it is recommended to keep marks in the magazine. But you should not turn your calligraphy work into a form of punishment for children. Teachers should be aware of the principles of differentiated approach.

Registration of written works in mathematics.

Between classes and homework, 4 cells should be withdrawn (further work begins on the fifth cell)

They retreat two cells down between classes and homework exercises. It should be noted that one cell is not allocated for capital letters, that is, one of the two (four) cells is counted for them.

In the columns of expressions, equations, equality and others there are three cells on the right (we write on the fourth).

The date may traditionally be written in the center or in the margin.

In any work, one cell moves back (5 mm) to the left of the edge of the notebook.

Traditionally, types of tasks are marked in notebooks. The word "work" is written in the middle of the line, the number is marked.

It is also necessary to follow the accepted criteria for the design of works. A short record of terms of works is prepared according to their type. The words "main" are capitalized. At the first stage of training, their incomplete recording is allowed (through initial letters).

In grades 1-4, the word "satisfaction" does not need to be written.

There are several ways to record problem solving: by actions, by actions with written explanations, by actions with question records, expressions, equations.

Under satisfaction is the word "answer" a lot. In first grade, the answer is written briefly. Students should then write a complete answer. For example:

Answer: We bought 10 balls in total.

While writing the state of the problem in tabular form, there is no need to draw it. Students fill the column two or three cells away from them. Column names are capitalized.

In satisfying the expression above the process students must follow the following standards:

Write the complete expression;

Symbols indicate the sequence of actions above;

schedule the sequence of actions (using oral or written counting techniques), down one cell;

Write the final value of the expression.

For example:

3 1 4 2

3450-145*2+1265:5=3413

1)145*2=290

2) 12 65 5 3) _3450 4) + 3160

6 253 290 253

15 3160 3413

We provide examples of design complex equations as required by high school mathematics teachers.

3 2 1

X + 123- 56 * 2 = 638

X + 123-112 = 638

X + 123 = 638 + 112

X + 123 = 750

X = 750-123

X = 627

627+123-56*2=638

638=638

All written calculations are done on the right side of the equation.

Creating task records is also a type of geometric learner that needs to be taught.

All drawings are made with a simple pencil using a ruler. Measurements can be signed with a pen. Letter designations are printed in Latin alphabet font, capital letters.

AT B

DS

Length of words, width Latin letters are not allowed to designate a rectangle abbreviated.

Function:

A rectangle is 12 cm long and 6 cm wide. Calculate the perimeter and area of ​​the rectangle.

Example of a small note and solution to the problem:

Length -12 cm

Width - 6 cm

perimeter -? cm

......

Keeping a diary in primary school.

The diary is an official document of the school. There are some requirements for its management. Compulsory attendance of diary from 1st. But in some cases (taking into account the formation of reading and writing skills of students), it is allowed to keep a diary from 1-2 grades by the decision of the teacher council and parent meeting.

Diaries are maintained with the help of parents and teachers.

Nowadays there are different diaries. Therefore, classroom teachers must tell students uniform requirements for their behavior:

• Entries are made accurately, legibly, competently, in blue ink;
• All available sections (items) of this diary must be filled (starting from the title page);
• Schedule of lessons, calls, names of subjects, names of teachers are filled under the guidance of teachers;
• Names of months and objects should be written in lower case letters. Abbreviated notation is allowed (Math., Ltd. Reading, Comprehension, Phys., Art.);
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• Homework is recorded in the assigned column. This is usually recorded on the next lesson day. Students must note exercise number, page, special notes (memorizing, retelling) regularly

Briefly about the main

Remember, when completing homework assignments, you play the role of assistant, not executor. Once you clearly define your role, the battles are half over. The responsibility is on your children, not on you.

Research shows that doing homework not only promotes learning, but school

and essential life skills such as organization, problem-solving, attention, memory, problem-solving, discipline and perseverance. But sometimes, when trying to help a child, we go too far and help him. Too much. Or perhaps we are not firm enough in our insistence that children do our work diligently and to the end.

Eight strategies to make homework easier

Use the following methods to help your child learn more successfully and independently.

1. Organize a place to do your homework. To help your child understand the importance of homework, designate a place for it. Any place that is quiet enough with good lighting will do. Then, with the help of your child, gather all the things you need in this place Pen, pencil, paper, scissors, ruler, calculator and dictionary. If you don't have a table, place these items in a plastic box or box. This will help the child to be organized.

2. Know teacher needs. Talk to teachers periodically throughout the year to understand their homework needs. For example, when are the exam dates announced? When is Library Day? Are spelling tests done every week? When are essays on books read? Should essays be typed or handwritten?

3. Create a routine from scratch. Pick a time that's most convenient for your child - after school, before dinner, after dinner - and stick to it. You can write down the homework time you agree with your child and display it in a prominent place. For younger children, you can draw a clock face and mark the lesson time on it.

4. Explain to your child that homework is required.

Make your homework serious from the start. A child should understand that homework should be done well. There are no other options.

5. Teach your child planning skills. Show your child how to prioritize to-do lists. He can pass when things are done. Children can draw different activities on strips of paper, fold the strips in the order they are done, and tape them together. The child rips the strips while completing the assignment until there are no more strips left.

6. Give your help only when you really need it. If your child is struggling, help him by modeling the same task and showing him step by step how to complete it. Then watch him do it himself. Another way to make sure your child is following your directions correctly and not depending on you for every little detail is to check the results of each logical step of the task.

7. Break the assignment into parts. Breaking the whole assignment into parts at home helps children who find it difficult to focus on the assignment and those who lose the ability to work. Ask your child to do one part of the assignment at a time. As the child builds confidence, you can gradually increase the size of the assignment pieces.

8. Determine Penalties for Not Completing Homework If you find that your homework is not being done or not being done as you requested, announce some type of penalty. For example, if the work is not completed by a certain time (ideally the same evening every evening), the child must know that he will be deprived of any pleasure that evening or the next day.

A step-by-step plan for changing a child's problem behavior :

Talk to other parents. What do they think about children's workload? Ask them for advice (if they can give it) on how to make homework less difficult. If you know the parents of your child's classmates, ask how their children do their homework. Do they think the tasks are too hard, too easy, or are they appropriate for the child's abilities? This information will help you assess your child's abilities.

Now is the time to take action to change your child's behavior. Use a Problem Behavior Change Diary to record your thoughts and plan for change.

1. Consider the root causes of homework wars. First, decide if your child is capable of doing this. Maybe this is beyond his ability level? Does your child have the necessary skills to succeed? A list of issues that concern you will help you develop a plan to address them.

2. If the homework is too difficult for the child (or too easy and boring), talk to the teacher and determine the child's ability. Does he need extra lessons? Maybe the lessons are too difficult? Maybe an assignment

Is reading (or math) too hard? What needs to change for the child to succeed? Write a change plan.

3. Consider how you react to battles around homework? Are you hesitating, pleading, reprimanding, bribing, defending, demanding? If so, how can you change your behavior so that it doesn't damage your relationship with your child?

4. And now the serious question: How much work does the child do on his own? Remember homework is for the child, not you. Your job is to direct, not execute. Think about what you're doing wrong and then make a plan to fix it.

5. Reread the eight strategies listed. Then choose the two most likely to help the child. Write down the steps you will take to be successful.

6. If you find that your child is having a really hard time coping with homework, or your relationship with him is strained, maybe you should hire a tutor. Ask your teacher or other parents for guidance.

Commitment to Change A child's behavior problem :

How would you use the eight strategies and step-by-step problem behavior plan to help your child? Write down what you will do over the next 24 hours to begin the process of slowly changing your child's problem behavior.

Effects of stepwise change in child problem behavior

Behavior modification is difficult, painstaking work that must be done consistently and is based on consolidation of results through parental encouragement. Your child's transition to change may be slow, but be sure to celebrate and reward each step.

It will not take less! 21 days to see the first result, so don't give up. Remember, if one approach doesn't work, another will. Record weekly progress in your child's behavior using the template below. Problem Behavior Record your progress daily in the Problem Behavior Change Diary.

Parental control over homework :

Control over the execution of homework should be directed to ensure that the child puts his soul into any task. It should be explained to him that the main thing is not the sign, but the work that stands behind the work.

Teach your child self-control :

The child can control whether the oral task is completed correctly. For example, retest other family members.

It should be remembered that the child himself must find out what is given. Parental care is good when mother and father help not only in completing tasks but also in practical work, play etc.

Guardianship of parents :

It happens that parents show excessive custody of first-grade students and actively participate in homework, do not allow the child to think, and sometimes they just give a ready-made solution to the problem, etc. 

More parental care :

While completing the assignment, it does not allow students to develop their willpower, prevents the development of interest, which destroys interest and desire to learn. And yet, if you see that it is difficult for your child, help him. Go to a meeting and make a difficult task easy for him. The child will feel a genuine sense of gratitude towards you for coming to his rescue.

And note that if your child does not read much, it will be very difficult for him to prepare for high school lessons in history, geography, physics, chemistry and other subjects.

Being in a public place with your parents and suddenly realizing that neither parent is holding your hand, being separated from them, suddenly lost in the crowd. We all have such memories.

Perhaps the world was more familiar and relatively small back then. Even parents were not so concerned about the safety of their children. In those days there was no mobile phone.

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I explained to my younger sister that if she came with me, she should buy toffees from a nearby shop. I was sure I knew the way back.

We bought chocolates, but got lost in the small lanes of Faridkot. Some of these lanes were closing in front of a house after walking a few steps.

But I bravely held my younger sister's hand and continued walking.  We wandered for a long time. Just then we saw a man who was servicing a scooter in front of his house. We told him we were lost. We have come to the village where there is a wedding. Then the person took the help of other people and took us to our home.

As parents, we feel helpless when it comes to children's safety. An atmosphere of fear is often created. But you can't put the burden of your fear and anger on your child, who is already suffering.

We should seek the help of other elders. Make sure your children feel safer with you than they do without you.  As we grow up, many of us internalize our parents' anger.

Many times we find ourselves in a situation where the problems with our parents are more dangerous than the problems in the outside world.

I have friends who had an accident or had a fight at school, didn't do well in an exam, felt the need for an abortion or needed any other medical help, but they avoided seeking help at home, fearing what would happen if their parents found out about it.

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